Talking of Indians in America..you might find in abundance ..every other kid goin to Med-school...they are prepared that way... the kid likes it or not..its actually surprising when I hear every other kid is goin to med -school..if you are wondering their parents are doctors or engineers ..nopes!! many of these parents are uneducated and had been doing odd jobs ..but the stupendous amount of money collected by couples and renting some properties is appreciable ..if you happen to see them ...they are in poor shape...their aim is to make the kid study and excel in life ..which is good ..but then why keep yourself deprived of all good things in spite of having everything....they will pool cars or buy from sale ..or even get stuff from India (hoarding) and keep using it forever and ever.till death apart them....
This is very common among many Indians...if one kid is going to Med-school ,the rest will get panicked ...and the kid is a scape goat..
getting a kid to Med -school is something very expensive ...but our Indians ... ...will try to pay from their resources and wont take any financial-Aid (which is available at low interest)and torture them-self to every extent....they don't believe in American theory or loans...but SAVINGS..every other way....they will use their overtimes to run the house and salaries in bank...or buying some land in India and selling it when kid is ready for med-school..
Now lets talk about kids...the kid whose parents are killing them-self to save money for med school ..is all Americanized ..moving at American pace.... same life style all smarty pants.. girls and boys..same-thing...
they don't wanna mingle in Indian culture...they are termed as confused DESI's..
Now the Med-school theory...everybody cannot get best universities ..so they will send their kids to some unknown med-schools but the clinical rotations will be in US and residency too..so it works ,but the kid has to study for sure, no short -cuts...now when they are all set after residency.....then what happens.
The real life drama begins now...
The kid is now working in one the good hospitals John Hopkins may be...and dating a girl ...which is fine ,but parents are now big embarrassment for him ...the same parents who fed him,killed themselves for his med -school so that he doesn't have to pay the loan and is set to start his career ....doesn't want to show to his friends his uneducated parents..so the parents are forced and sent to India to enjoy their old age ..or parents are living alone with help of others.....
I would say the parents here should be more practical and save for old age ...to let kids pay their debts and know the value of hard earned money....they should only guide kids,rest is everyone has to pay for their own deeds...
The parents who think that by keeping the kids free of debts and giving them a carefree life is mistaken ...as parents they spend all time in earning and saving without enjoying life looking at the kids that they would enjoy the perks in old age with their kids but...kids have mind of their own now...with no strings attached....they are Americanized in every way and need space and independence ....the parents are unwanted now!!!
This scene is very common here....its pathetic to see senior citizens (Indians) living in apartments alone...not out of personal choice but to keep kids happy.. till end of their life depriving them self from many worldly things....
One my uncles recently ..seeing all this scenario among Indian community decided to write his will (this uncle is very rich)that his property will be given to his kids only after they are professionals completing their studies after his death otherwise it will go to a charitable trust ..as the kids were giving him hard time looking at their money ..both of his kids are going to med-school and they have taken financial -aid on the basis that kids are independent and not living with them,which is a wise decision .....
the kids looking at the will have stopped throwing tantrums now....much better now and more respectful toward parents...I was actually surprised to see the change in attitude of kids as to how smart they are!!!
to conclude I would say if kids are smart these days ,parents don't have to be emotional Fools!!!
