bride or bribe?

 

...Dowry is a social stigma,it  leads to many other problems... female infanticides is one among them ...
why blame anyone..we are the people who make this and later repent on mistakes.
people say with confidence ..nowadays things have changed and nobody asks for dowry N people are educated and know their options But  let me tell you we pretend to be blind and want to see jus what we like even after all that happenings around us..
Indian marriages are a million dollar wedding at least...there are no ends of show-offs and attitudes ... A wedding in India which happened to be in Times Of India newspaper..created lot of noise back home...since I am frm ludhiana punjab.

Deal!

..."Seal the Deal" is a very common term used in Corporates ...But what if its used in Matrimony...
kinda surprising??
Dowry system is very popular in India...it was there ever since we are Born but the standards have been raised or..Greed has grown with inflation or Peer pressure.....
I was actually surprised when one of my online friends who is all set to get married ,looking for a girl in matrimonial sites or otherwise ...told me that he got an offer for fifteen lacs,Cash as deal with rest of the stuff ...as the girl is not so Good looking...so the offer is made by girls parents and not him...
When I asked him ..why he is stooping so low?kinda shaking his Soul,I actually showed him the mirror!! .. money for a partner of lifetime ,I asked ..he said ...its not him ..but his people at home who are interested ..looking at the money...but he refused as he is not interested in girl or money....
this is not the first time I heard this....there are numerous stories ...
Gauri was one of the girls in our neighborhood in India...got married where the deal was set to twenty two lacs...it happened recently.... the Guy is frm Gurgoan in IBM and his family has actally priced him in the Market...Gauri is good looking girl working in a bank as ABM ...but her parents said...We had to make a deal elsewhere too...so at least these people are educated..
I would ask here from girls parents...
what kind of eduction is this?
1)Why is there so much desperation...to get rid of your own kid?
I mean same amount of money spent on her studies or some better professional course ..where she is self sufficient ...and lay ground rules for getting your child married to some decent people... so much greed..what guarantee is there that these people will be satisfied with twenty two lacs....
2) why do we forget that we are the people who make laws of society and later repent on them...no wonder why female infanticide is there....Coz Greed cannot be fulfilled and people are gender biased now....
And guys when you ask for Dowry ,think how can you have a peaceful married life ..where one partner will always have hatred for squeezing money out of others pocket...
..We actually give Ideas to people that this is possible and marriages can be easy..in this form...

its a SHAME!!!