Illusions of happiness is something like a picture above ,,what you actually see is not what exactly it is ..same is happiness in life..
happiness has no limits and boundaries ..people cannot measure happiness ..every person has his own definition of happiness ..fundamentals are different not necessarily what makes us happy will make others happy too..
in the past I met many people (our clients) ..and I learned that not many are happy .. its not money ..its not family ..its not work ..then what makes them happy??
Its the inner satisfaction .. so who is satisfied??
Jasmine 28 yrs old a physician who came to me to get some bridal stuff six months before ..I met her last week.. she was tired.. she said" I jus wanna take a retirement ,I m totally exhausted jus wannabe be at home..its too much.. no cooking nothing jus work for two of us" I asked her retirement at the age of 28 .. ?"
she laughed ..I married a cardiologist ..he is working .. I jus want to relax.. have babies and enjoy with kids I m done with medicine n all "
... Rashmi another client .. I met at work ... a mechanical engineer .. working for GM (general motors)
said " I m sick jus sick ..wanna leave this ..and do my own stuff .. have my catering business ..I love cooking ..(she cooks very well ) "I m like what the heck! so many yrs of education and hard work and now when time to earn you guys are totally burned out.."
.. Another example .. I was in school standing there waiting in the hall.. Amy said shelly" you dint go to work??"
Shelly " its jus same BS (bullshit ) everyday.. I dint know this MBA is actually gonna kick my ass off .."
I m jus waiting for time when I could earn my benefits and spend some time for me"its lot of work
SO..
who is happy? when we are young its studies n jus studies .. when we grow up its the career n only career that matters and now when its time to earn we are exhausted ..so many years of studies has burnt everyone
what is important in life happiness ? where do we get happiness .. from money..nope
from education ... nope ...from big careers ..nope..
.. if you ask me ..I would say yes .. its monotonous life style..
where are we heading ..?
I believe there is no fixed formula to happiness .. its basically Peace n satisfaction ,, which comes from within.. rest is rat race!
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.In my previous blog...I had written about one of my close friends ANU..her preferences and expectations for life partner...to which I read many views ...
The reason I am writing a sequel on this..is I would like to clear some misconceptions on the views I read .
I think everyone looks for a better companion in life...I have never heard any girl saying she wants to get married to a poor guy..or get a ride on bicycle ..or looking for an illiterate person...I mean when we were in University most of my friends had similar kind of views except few things ..and had set their standards high..Girls from big towns or livin in US always have a class difference with those of villages or people from small towns...Most of us in my friends circle got married as per our choices...and luckily we found one!
Another thing which I would like to discuss here is ....having a mind-set on something and striving for that is nothing wrong..its always the society you move inn raise your standards of living and expectations... most of the Indians we know here in Michigan are Engineers as it has an Auto industry here..The Big three(GM,Ford,Chrysler)and they all have "DECENT"Cars...Indian community here ,the educated people ..professionals.. I am talking about ..the people I know ,have expensive houses and luxury cars...so its no big deal to find a person having all these ...and may be moving in that crowd as we have a common friend circle ...Anu has some expectations from life and partner!!!
Joint family was another factor ...Its good as long as it works in the family and respect each others decisions...but no compulsions...I would not harbor that thought since parents are precious for everyone and laying conditions before getting married not to live in joint family is considered not so good....things workout once we get into that situation ...and we know many Educated families here where parents live separately as they need their own space from their kids and keeping cordial relation with them....but on any Social gathering we see them together..
Lemme tell you I live in a joint family..so to me living close to my family is very important I get a feeling of security!
Anu had jus given her preferences ,but if it was a guy instead of her ,,,,he would look for some Queen in India ..expecting lot of things in dowry since he is US returned and even after that he would lay some conditions on her before bringing her to US.
And guys ...wait for few years we are not far from that age n era when girls gonna keep conditions too like boys before marriage ..see the rate of female infanticides..where the population of females is declining ..there will be a bride hunting at every nook and corner..
Marriage to me is love and respect ..with adjustments ...and keeping the temperament in control...the real story of life begins
AFTER**
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