last blog...2010..

2010..has been a great year in many ways..some big events made headlines....wikki leaks( Julian Assange)
strange but eye openers..
to me its was a great year...It brought many good things positively..How?I am getting wiser with years...yaaa.
I started writing my blog in 2008..but was not open for public...but jus my own writings like my personal diary...then I started writing which was open to all..something in general....still I have many drafts lying with me ....then came my blogger friends in 2010...Bikramhttp://mann-bikram.blogspot.com/2010/12/thursday-challenge-lights.htmland dharamjithttp://dharmjit-singh.blogspot.com/2010/11/i-am-very-grateful-to-baba-g-for.html the first ones and then came Umahttp://umasculinaryworld.blogspot.com/2010/12/tomato-saar.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+UmasCulinaryWorld+%28Uma%27s+Culinary+World%29and they have been there ever since..all of my blogger friends have been very nice and kind thanks to all ...there is so much to learn from each blog!


2)the second best thing...I started with a new programme in May..a new launch of our latest collection showcasing ethnic wear... .which was quite successful... ..it was quite a good deal!made me more confident and independent decision maker at the same time.


3)this is bad...its been five years since my last trip to India...missed this year too...next yr for sure!

4)Zeenu one of my best friend getting married....

5)..my little one started school this year...but still in diapers..(teacher doesn't know ;) yay!!!

6)my best cousin moved to Canada as per their Visa problem hope she is back next year with green card...I miss her so much!!

7) I learned to park properly and exactly between the yellow lines but still very poor in parallel parking I skip the store if its a parallel parking.

8)this year I fell  down again (in snow)..but luckily nobody saw me  :)

......hope the next year I visit India...and jus keep up with snow...no more falling and jus rising up to every expectation...

 Happy New YEAR!

my journey of life!

...jus two days away from new year....today is twenty ninth December when my journey of life started...the day I got married...and my world changed..he walked into my life as a breath of fresh air...
My journey actually started after I met him... we have many similarities ..we come from same town ,we have same first name initial...we have same taste of music and movies...we have parents who share same birth dates .. ..his lucky two numbers are my house numbers coincidentally..his grand parents and my grand parents were good friends....and many more...its like tailor made..
We Share all the minute details as to what happened all day round and how to get things fixed ..my trouble shooter...he has an answer to all my problems...never lets me down ...Smart..Master of all arts!
He came back from Canada after staying three months...he was sent  to Germany in-between this phase...I could not believe seeing him in Germany.. posting all his pictures ..in detail...
My biggest Critique.. reading my blogs...and tells me where I need improvement even if I don't like it...very genuine in his opinion ...He will never Brag for his biggest achievements ,he will never discuss outside his family ,never looses temper...never gets into any kind of argument....very introvert but very observant ..he accepted me as I am ,never wanted any changes unless it appeals me...gave me lot of independence never asked me why??relationship is based on trust...
Every person has some flaws too...where he lacks too....not very organized...his wallet ..cell phone.all around the places...sun glasses he has many pairs coz he never bothers about them...
very generous at heart...if anybody cries in front of him...for money...he is ready to give whatever he has in his pocket..even if its a pretend...has love for everyone ...even if other person ....has some malice for him...
My last trip to India he had spend lot of money on tips to every other person unnecessarily...taxi driver,rickshaw,waiter, beggars.....to see ever body smiling....says.."Aree Dua milegi"( get blessings from everyone)which is priceless!!
I love him the way he is...thank my stars when I see women in trouble for wrong choice of life partner....
God has been very kind to me...I always believe in
"Marriages are made in heaven celebrated on earth"

Merry Christmas!

disclaimer..(only people with liberal views should read by blog...to me God made humans first and then came religion and country  ,those who believe in this and accept it should go ahead and read ..rest should rest at home ...I respect all blogger s irrespective or their country ,religion ...its always mental blocks we have and want to keep them forever)

Merry Christmas to all of you ..as we are heading to the end of the year..its one of the best times of the year...when we have Christmas with friends and family and general get together s...exchanging gifts between us then watching one Christmas movie every year!its nothing to do with christian ,Muslim or Indian...I personally believe God made everyone with best of his interest to create peace and harmony in this world..but circumstances and upbringing changes human nature and its thinking.!!
...its White Christmas Again...snow all over the place and city decorated in a beautiful way...red and green all over with bows and wreath ..and Christmas celebrations all over...lots to eat and try new cuisines and stock up sales all over the place ..prices chopped..dirt cheap,unexpected prices ..lots to shop and lots to donate...
its time to share and care for others...spread love and respect others!New Year is jus four days away from us..lets hope world be a better place to live and we keep our spirits high not to repeat same mistakes in new year..Conquer new horizons and make this World a beautiful and loving place!
AMEN

"The White Mercedes Benz"

 

..every morning I park my car....outside my office..and right next to me is the "White Mercedes Benz"...Nice and shiny in its full grandeur....there may be many other luxury cars in the parking lot but I never noticed since this is right next to me so it got my attention..I wondered who brings it over here and takes it home in the evening ...seems like nine to five job....
these cars are known as status symbols...owned by executives or CEO or rich people who can afford it...as pre-conceived notions..
one day I happened to see the owner..of this car...I jumped from seat and came near the window leaving all work on my desk ..to see ....not missing a chance I thought..my office phone was ringing but I thought, forget the work!!..I have to check this out first who is this? as we share the common space..I could see a lady walking towards the car, the face was not visible ....as she turned around to sit on the drivers seat.."Oh my God".. I cant believe this!!...she is a waitress in the restaurant two doors down...where I grab my coffee in the evening...
to make sure I went to the restaurant ...the very next day...yep!!..she was the same person standing and taking orders from people at every table...
she came to me.."Hi Hun"... how can I help you?I said" jus a regular coffee"..I looked at her ..and said "your ring is nice"she said "my hubby gave it to me on my twenty fifth anniversary" now my daughter is getting married...she introduced her daughter to me ..who is also a waitress there....I smiled at mother daughter "Combo"and came out ...
given a thought..the whole notion of status has changed in US..every other person owns these so called luxury cars..one cannot guess who is the owner of the car....
Usually the waitress and bartenders make lot of money,as food is free and tips are good to help the house running..these are odd jobs but if we see an average person in US he or she enjoys the same quality of life as any other citizen!
Bragging for Benz or BMW..Guys... you never know who else owns them...it can be a waitress or bartender!!its is no longer a monopoly ..of revered top executives or industrialists or any other rich person!!
Bravo!

Radio channel!

we recently had a new radio channel ..10:90 AM ..probably the first one to have all Hindi songs twenty four hours a day ..Its very new; just three months old .... I came to know from one of our friends..I have it in my car ..listening to whole new and old songs while driving....I was coming from work it was raining ..and the song that these guys played was..from an old movie.."zindigai bhar nahi bhoolegi woh barsaat ki raat"I smiled and thought are they putting purposely looking at the weather...its nice..even if its done intentionally...

This channel is started by some lady from Toronto ..presumably a Pakistani...but the songs are from Indian and Pakistani movies...some Punjabi songs too...there are some songs and ghazals I never knew...basically its all by requests of people...
Now the reason I am mentioning this was the people have all praises for Indian songs ..their old favorites songs sung by mohmmed rafi and lata mangeshkar...and the Indians who are requesting have all praises for Pakistani singers..Nusratfateh ali songs,noorjahan,shamshad begum...the shyiari etc....its like reciprocal ..all love against each other...
Today I was driving at work...I thought "see how these country people are all praises for each other "songs and requests ..knowing the culture so well...But back home..scenario is different...is it politically motivated there?
so much has been written on India and Pakistan...the whole world knows about it...
why cant we change our thinking...and create love for each other like this!!

Human nature...

 

..".there is a great deal of human nature in people"...
every person is different and ways of thinking is different...negative or positive thoughts are part of human system which is beyond control....wisdom comes with age....
During our childhood we receive instruction on what is expected behavior and what is unacceptable behavior. And those behaviors are weather reinforced or punished. Therefore if one does bad, one is prohibited on some sort of pleasure or inflicted with pain; and in the opposite, if one does good, one is to be compensated with an object or an act that would have a pleasant effect on us.
then comes religion..with expected behavior reinforcing with even bigger promise of gratification called "Heaven"
and the unaccepted is punished with eternal distress called hell...
then.. examples are given by a collective past where similar things are done and the results were disastrous...
Individuals all over the world are known by there behavior and acts..Good or bad..the Good are embraced but the bad are often rejected...People blow out the situation and create a trouble for others ..its humane..but not understood...
Two categories of people are here..
Complaining..
these are those kind ,no matter how good things are they will keep complaining  to friends, relatives ,parents ..and above all the"Almighty"..they are never happy..they have all those negative vibes coming out...worrying for unseen future ..not believing others are part of the nature and they think  nothing is wrong in that ... its hard to convince them as they have a negative answer ready to every small reason...
the word of mouth spreads often and rejection is faced by them.
Acceptance..
there are others..who accept and try to learn keeping in mind the prior mistakes,they grow as they learn..often these kind of people are seen with no fuss and total acceptance..they speak less observe more and try to understand the situation before blowing out of proportion ..their temper is always in control...they are  non- complaining types and keeping away from any unhealthy kind of argument...they also have many behavioral flaws but the good qualities hides all..


The individuals with the most acceptances are expected to become leaders, while all rejected individuals are to be separated from the group and constitute rebel minorities with similar organizational type.
 Common  reasons...
hatred
desperation
envy
greed
selfishness
...many more....
Millions of crimes are done everyday..its like world is full of culprits and Demons,,no end .
.recently a baby girl Just two years of age was picked and taken on a secluded place ..trying to be molested..the guy was caught and kid was taken..its holiday season sometimes parents ignore kids thinking its safe..but these vicious people are everywhere...parents be careful, take care of children they are precious!!
this news was was spread everywhere.. where is Humanity going?...
why create a trouble in the society..if that's the case ..go to some brothel and they will do you a favor for your desperation that is seen publicly.....these kind of people are nothing but loosers..and trouble creators in the society...
"God..where is humanity and humility..the beautiful world created by you has changed ever since your angels left".....

(dekh teri duniya ki halat kya hogyi Bhagwan ke kitna badal gaya insaan)

"mirror on the wall ..who is fairest of all"?

The fairness cream market is flourishing in India, a country that represents a unique amalgamation of social, religious, and cultural stigmas and stereotypes. 
 on one of the Indian channels...I heard an advertisement ..saying"fair skin people are liked and loved by all..improve yourself by our product"
We are all born with a certain skin color and texture as per our genes or the race we come from..but to my mind I had seen people has a certain liking towards lighter skin ..as compared to darker one..thou.I have never taken a fancy to lighter skin ..as the lighter skin people are ugly too...it all depends on you facial features and grace to carry yourself....
Hailing from India..where a common person thinks "fair is beautiful " something which stands apart actually is nothing but a myth..which creates a problem in society when a girl has to be married!!
If we see around us ..in India the majority of people has a wheatish complexion even thou they claim themselves to be fair with different features as per the states...
there is lot of competition in india among a fair and dark skin females..for no apparent reason..studying in the university I had noticed girls trying to improve their complexion by using all weird things and sometimes ending up with an acne problem getting a  skin lighter but  ugly looking...all guys wanted to go for light skin girls as their girlfriends...I have been seeing this since I came to this earth how much importance is given to lighter skin...

 (before N after)

 

I never had any problem as per color or anything else..thought myself to be very fortunate otherwise it was difficult to exist in this competition..(just kidding)..but always thought about those girls who had no confidence as the Indian society is so biased...as per skin color...
We had a maid in India ..whose daughter was very fair ...she was a teenager in those days...and everyone had a fancy towards her  for skin color..saying "she looks like princesses"thou I found her facial features very ugly ...and the girl I am talking had so much attitude..didn't listen to anyone..was put on pedestal for no reason!!
 This  is so gender biased and if there is a girl on the way with a dark skin ,I mean its pathetic for kid..even if parents are good and lovable but the whole company  kills the confidence..
and when she is rejected by people on basis of her color..its like kicking out somebody for no reason!!

Obama's triumph proved that any child can dream of becoming president, regardless of skin color. We in America may have reaffirmed the notion that the color of a person's skin shouldn't matter. But for many people across Asia, the color of skin matters a lot. In recent years, "skin whitening" has become a huge industry in countries like China, Korea, Japan, and India...

light skin is deemed more beautiful, in both men and women. Indian actors and actress almost always have milky white skin, or use lots of makeup to made to look lighter. Actress Bipasha Basu who has darker skin than most other Indian actresses, has been made to look lighter through makeup and her pictures are airbrushed for the same purpose....
Skin color has been given undue importance  for a long time. Some people argue may be in jest that because of the British rule in India, Indians developed this admiration for the white skin There are also references in Indian literature glorifying the white skin and where the image of a fair flawless skin is construed as a key factor for a person to look good! every girl wants to be sucessful  bollywood star ..and thinks a key to this is a fair and flawless skin..
which is a myth!