looking at my closet I took out one of the dress which I had got stitched from India after going through lot of hard work,I looked at my dress...beautifully done ..but I remembered how I lost my patience and my temper flared up!!
India my country ....where I come from, I was taken aback when I went to one of the boutiques to get my dresses done...if I look few years back when I was studying ,the scene was different ...now same house where I lived,its all commercialized with big complexes and market place..I couldn't recognize the place .it has changed so much..all the houses have been renovated and very busy road with no place to walk...
I come from Punjab(northern part of India),,Ludhiana ..living in the city was that difficult but now it s impossible..
now the dress I am talking about ..I had brought few dresses (fabrics)Patiala (Punjab) ..somebody recommended me to that place..but to get them stitched..was a hassle..I went to one of the boutiques..its was like big huge house.. like palace ...I went inside the boutique...with my bag of fabrics..the lady asked me what I had come for?I told her to get some dresses stitched I took my dresses out ...she said"No we don't do this,you have to buy fabric from us and then we stitch..and moreover dresses are done for crowd from abroad like USA,UK ,Canada ..we are very busy with those orders..I smiled and thanked my stars that I am from one of those countries and said "I am from US too...I can show you my US id...she said "NO.".you have to purchase the fabric from us...
I said" fine"..and left the boutique...these kind of boutiques are mainly owned by industrialist and their wives are running the boutiques..I felt really bad...with a relative I went to another known boutique...she smiled looking at me..and without even asking me why I have come for?she said we are very busy this season and all our shipments are for US customers..we have a website where we custom do our designing...I said "I have come from US to specially get it done from you..she said" its Diwali season we are busy"..same story..I left and went home..
Why are people so lured by west..Bragging ..for no reason..if we ask them about western countries and their lifestyle they will deny on face of it..saying...its bad !! we love our country blah blah blah!!is it the Dollars that pulls them to NRIs..or a status symbol that they cater only NRIs ??so fake!!
My temper flaring up..I thew the bag on the floor ,my mom looked at me and asked what happened?? I told her the story..she referred me to one of her friends Ex-army officers wife and told me to go to her..I went to the lady mom told...mom couldn't go with me as we were expecting some guests at home..
I went to this Aunt referred by mom!!I had never seen her before.. hard to recognize..
I opened the boutique door...A lady came to me..I said the same fabric story(I was fed by now never wanted to get them stitched happy with my tees n jeans)she said" look we are very busy and we have orders from US which needs to be taken care off !!..and you need to buy fabric from us if you ever want to get it stitched"..I could see a women sitting in a glass cabin inside working on computer ..I asked is she Col Kahlon's wife..?? she said yes.."mam is the owner and I generally take care of petty jobs"..I told her to let me meet her.. I told her about my mom too ,she said "you wait here I will inform mam"!!..So Aunt came out at last and smiled looking at me..seems like mom told about me I thought!...she asked me where I am from US, I told her..the state I come from!! .(.seems like its a character certificate).. the lady whom I spoke first brought measuring tape ...and took the bag from me and asked me about the patterns and style...I was very happy...but they told me its only you are referred by mam that we agreed.. and the four dresses will be made in a months time since all Nri shipments they have to be sent first...I said"fine"..I was in India for four weeks..so I got all dresses done just a day before leaving for Delhi to US that morning...
when I still think about it ..its like people are totally lured by west..I met many people who really wanted to know correct means to get visa or work visa!!girls asking about any guy in friends circle to " patao"and get married!!
I mean then why these double standards with us ..I like and love my country but every place has some flaws..which as a true Indian we should not deny!!I have seen people who always talk bad about their country but if we say anything it said"you have no right okay" you "NON RELIABLE INDIAN"(NRI)..I mean how reliable are you then??...talking all that weird things about country and keeping double standards at least we know the flaws and talk about it in a genuine manner!!
I think its opportunity that matters...if you don't want to move to west why would you abuse other people who have settled?everyone has their own wish.,..and we are same Indians by heart and blood ..following same Indian tradition's and culture...
pointing others...STOP.....other three fingers are pointing at you!