.. Destined...

.Destiny plays an .. important role..we meet for a reason ..we greet for a reason and sometimes we become best buddies .. so this acquaintance is actually destined ,, n we come to know later .. I sometimes feel .. where did I see this person n then recollect OH! it resembles the person I know..
.. its decided whom to marry whom to love and where to keep friendship... like a scripted story .. no matter how hard we try but its destined .. 
I met a lady in a party .. jus exchanged smiles .. later came to know she is one of the friends relative I knew she landed to my work place ordered some outfits ..chatted with me we became friends ,, and now we talk on regular basis ,, its strange ..how dots are connected... 
..I knew a guy through someone (only by name)he sent a proposal to my house
I dint know its him  cuz never saw..he knew couple of my friends but dint see me .. jus bits n pieces of information ..we met things worked ..we got married .. and together forever .. 
I knew this person from FB (facebook) he was in one of my friends list .. he sent me request I accepted .. we talked he was kind genuine person an artist by profession ..its been 5 good yrs still best buddies ..

.. Now about the bad or negative vibes we get from other person.. its instant it clicks and you want to avoid the person .. you try hard .. still meet but ignore .. .. Destined to meet  ..its sounds funny.. 
so.. in the end choice is yours ..good bad or ugly ..decision made from heart.. I say God you are GREAT.!!

Goerge Clooney and his lovely wife (marriages made in heaven celebrated on earth)

Gender biased..

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Its been a while ..I haven't written anything...Busy as always hope all my friends are doin good..
Everyday we hear new stuff ,, new issues showing up.. I kinds feel people are biased .. when it comes to genders.. we are one who make barriers n we are the one who want them apart now
I always felt and strongly feel women MUST n MUST  compete in every field .. there have been place where it was a challenge and still women have did unexpectedly. Well ..
BUT hold on to your horses ..I sometimes feel we when talk only women n women somewhere we are biased ,, situations vary and circumstances makes a difference..
We all know when a female is born as a first child .. parent s n in-laws wish "OH Boy" where are you!!..But a pretense is there like .. "we are happy very happy"..
well some genuine people might be there .. no hard feelings please..
But then its said ."its a ritual girls get married n leave parents .. we give them birth but they have to go and stay with  husband  forever "
..I would like to correct here for those who carry this kinda feeling .. when a boy gets married or even before marriage would say he already belongs to his wife .. after marriage if things don't work with with parents they live separate ..independent ... so a couple stays independently

so parents of boy are alone .. too
now girls parents are alone too
so where is the difference?
I mean unnecessary every time you see its written "betiyaan paraya dhan"
after all these betiyaa are also one of those who make boys fall in same category..

... I being a mom of two boys .. strongly feel .. boys n girls have same right .. why do we expect so much?? I mean respect to parents is a feeling by itself not forced upon .. it should be mutual .. son or daughter .. none is bound by ritual .. its society n our old school thinking makes it worse.


I came to US .. several years back .. stayed with in-laws as things worked pretty well and still its working.. my mom migrated to Canada she lives half an hour away .. I feel I get best of both the world my parents and in-laws both .. I am not parayadhan( someone's property)

We judge our kids by society not by our values.. make them strong ..if relationships work keep yourself n others happy otherwise RESPECT stands first in both ways mutually.
Girls have never been someone else property . they are humans too .. same as boys ..
don't pass jugements PLZzz
we are towards 21 century!

.. its a lovely poem though biased again!

"BETI" KA "ANOKHA"
BAYAAN ..!

Dear Papa....

"Beti" bankar ayi hu ma-baap ke jivan me,

basera hoga kal mera kisi aur ke aangan me,

kyu ye reet "RAB" ne banai hogi,...

"kehte" hai aaj nahi to kal tu "parai" hogi,

"Dekhe" janam "paal-poskar" jisne hame bada kiya,

aur "waqt" aya to unhi hatho ne hame "vida" kia,

"Tut" ke bikhar jati he humari "zindagi" wahi,

par phir bhi us "bandhan" me pyar mile "zaruri" to nahi,

kyu "rishta" humara itna "Ajib" hota hai,

kya bas yahi "betiyo" ka "Nasib" hota he??

"Papa" Says"...
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Bahut "chanchal" bahut
"Khushnuma" si hoti hai "BETIYA".

"Nazuk" sa "dil" rakhti hai "Masoom" si hoti hai "BETIYA".

"Baat" baat par roti hai
"Nadan" si hoti hai "BETIYA".

"Rehmat" se "bharpoor"
"Khuda" ki "Nemat" hai "BETIYA".

"Ghar" mehak uthta hai
Jab "muskrati" hai "BETIYA".

"Ajeeb" si "Taklif" hoti hai
Jab "dusre" ghar jati hai "BETIYA".

"Ghar" lagta hai suna suna "Kitna" rula ke "jati" hai "BETIYA"

"Khushi" ki "jhalak"
"Babul" ki "ladli" hoti hai "BETIYA"

Ye "Hum" nahi "kehte"

Yeh toh "RAB " kehta hai. . .Ke Jab main bahut khush hota hu toh "janam" leti hai
"PYARI SI BETIYA"

weather update from US

..Sitting here at work on my  chair and looking out WHT the f***..so cold -45 f..
schools closed ..wind-chill, slush  you name it..Its there..
I came to work like driving on banana peel .. seems like I m going to hit somebody. Snow drives me crazy..and worst when its like haunted town ..
last week it was like north pole ..this week wind chill warning ..I would like to ask God
" O God ..what mistake we made as to you have shown these days.??
so much snow and temp dropping to -45 f is insane "

I was always a sunshine person.. infact dad called me my sunshine.. but see where I landed inn.. like a Nancy Drew in an haunted house ..where none seen only snow n snow ..I mean tons of snow..
life gets disrupted and with so much stuff on you need to have good strength

..cap ,gloves , ear muffs , jacket , snow boot .. its like counting on everything before moving out..
Cleaning cars in the morning driving me NUTS n guy on gas station filled washer fluid which doesn't work in cold..hazy windshield..
GAWD ..hope this period is over PERIOD

Devyani Khobragade ..indian diplomat

..Devyani khobragade.. we are all very well aware of this name and identity... "those who don't know google it"
The indian diplomat who was been held for visa fraud and making false  statements..
its was on trial with a final verdict .. Devyani was sent back to India ..
Found guilty
But I m surprised how people of india supported devyani for wrong deed..
jus because she is indian doesn't mean she is fair.. why the hell we support frauds and corruption when our country has already gone to DOGS.. if there is something left its due to bunch of good and honest people ..
rapes, corruption , theft ..name it and its there.. to eradicate the evil we need to balance .. charity starts at home ..
We are all same made by God .. there was no caste system .. no servants , no maids ..its jus dire need of money people indulge in petty jobs..living in US we do all the work cleaning to mopping.. laundry to cooking .. if cannot do it we leave it for weekends but has to be done by us.. Maids from india on Visa and then treated like a slave .. WHY??
if Devyani was really super human and very kind .... As assumed by our people

maid and her husband

 

 

as supporters are doin why would a maid complain?? if she was nice..why would she come out.. oh HELLO .. its our mindset back home we serve food maids in the end ..with left overs make them sit on floor.. ,, and then if they fall Sick we would like to kick them rather heal the wounds .. as most of the people are so used to their own comfort they don't like to be taken out from comfort zone.. Stepping out of india means NO MAIDS for sure ..if you are such a lazy lump.. get a lady hired on daily basis and she will do same thing pay hefty sum ..But never ever play with LAWS here in US..
My kids went to day day care we paid a hefty sum every month.. why? we know its a law ..who else will help ...
people who make money should have heart to spend.. making money in US dollars and spending in Indian rupees ..its only our own good and honest so called Devyani can do!!
such a shame she has brought to India!!

check me out.. Amazing video

...Sometimes kids are amazing .. it seems like these infants cannot speak but at heart understand every word..
I was completely taken aback when I saw this video ..the kid emotes so well at this tender age of 9 months. Its unbelievable .

check this out..

..I mean its like reacting to every lyric and understanding it..there is no doubt we understand and learn from day one... but its a different case when we keep ours self away in our own isolated world pretending to be unaware of things goin around us ..and people term it as ignorance..
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The final verdict ..

..Its a great NEWS ..our brave heart got justice ..the final verdict ..
I was kinda rejoiced to hear a very clear cut judgment.
..Nothing absolutely nothing should pitfall ..its time to make them realize DARE NOT ..the consequences can be fatal..
The Fiasco is no more ..the Capital punishment has made aware that public and only public can rule ..
Never underestimate power of common man..
I felt bad when I heard there was a lawyer in defense .. for what?
saving these beasts ?? their parents should be Ashamed for this Act they should never appeal .. as a matter of fact it should be a set example for other parents ..disown the kid ..if they stoop that low..
As for juvenile I would say there is no age bar for crime specially if its a rape ..
He should also be thrown in same HELL..as others
thank you MY LORD  to bring justice for our brave heart !!

Truth n only truth will prevail in the END


I eagerly await this date.

"offer an help when in need don't turn your back, you might be the next one  asking for same help very soon"
 

Delhi to mumbai .. it dint stop!!

.. it very disgusting to hear another Gang rape in Mumbai .. seems like people are sexed up in India..
...HEY ..Guys go to sex workers ..they will do you a favor.. ( those dirty filthy places)
 rather then harassing the Gurlz in public broad day light..its cheap ..its bad..
The respect seem to be lost where female is looked upon as a sex object in India .. another point that comes to my mind is there is no fear of law in criminals mind.. where the cops seems to be on heavy doze of sleeping pill and gets up only when there is emergency or alarms ringing. The politicians have their own share by asking heavy amount of mullahs to get rid of whole thing and set culprits free ..
...The Nirbhaya case in Delhi is still in our minds how the girl was tortured and this came in as News that there is another one..
I would make a request to Indian govt  please hand over these criminals.. five of them to public in front of parliament house on set date and instead of capital punishment jus let people rip them publically so that no one ever dare to do this again ..
We don't need fast track courts , funds , or committees ..its jus one shot decision.. cuz people in india the general public should come up with strength  over the ruling party to join hands .. as it can happen to anyone..

its HALL OF SHAME .. where every other person is talking about this...in world
  .. For India I wont hesitate say it runs on politics or bribe ..nothing really happens...NOTHING.
what if this happens to any celebrity , or politician .. then??..
that day is not far when it will happen in our home. With our own daughters or sisters..
its a wake -up call ..
its shouldn't be days , weeks or months .. for decision ..it should be instant once culprits are caught we don't need many witnesses when victim is alive.. jus need to cut the organs which seem to be over active..

SHAME!!