Poinsettias..

..Ever since I came to US I m in love with this plant .. the leaves itself are like cluster of flowers ..they speak for them self .. such vibrant beautiful colors hard to take your eyes off .. I was in Grocery store other day I felt like ..are they artificial? touching and getting a feel of texture ..the sparkles spread on them makes them even more prettier .. no doubt they stand for Christmas celebrations and invite everyone towards themselves.
Unaware of this plant.... to me its an Exotic one.. but rare ,pleasure to my eyes. Any color you pick its u unique..
My favorite one is RED ../burgundy but pumpkin orange is something I love too.
Purple was one I fell my eyes on and thought look at the richness .. seems like color pallet in front of me ..I touched the leaves again ,, the girl at grocery store looked at me and smiled .. "may I help you"
I said "oh no no I m jus trying to select the color .. thanks "
Am I paranoid ..what the heck am I doin.. looks awful.. quietly picked up the flowers I liked and went to ring them up.. 
Poinsettias have been always my favorite.. 
check my fav Poins 

Grocery store

flower shop

.. Destined...

.Destiny plays an .. important role..we meet for a reason ..we greet for a reason and sometimes we become best buddies .. so this acquaintance is actually destined ,, n we come to know later .. I sometimes feel .. where did I see this person n then recollect OH! it resembles the person I know..
.. its decided whom to marry whom to love and where to keep friendship... like a scripted story .. no matter how hard we try but its destined .. 
I met a lady in a party .. jus exchanged smiles .. later came to know she is one of the friends relative I knew she landed to my work place ordered some outfits ..chatted with me we became friends ,, and now we talk on regular basis ,, its strange ..how dots are connected... 
..I knew a guy through someone (only by name)he sent a proposal to my house
I dint know its him  cuz never saw..he knew couple of my friends but dint see me .. jus bits n pieces of information ..we met things worked ..we got married .. and together forever .. 
I knew this person from FB (facebook) he was in one of my friends list .. he sent me request I accepted .. we talked he was kind genuine person an artist by profession ..its been 5 good yrs still best buddies ..

.. Now about the bad or negative vibes we get from other person.. its instant it clicks and you want to avoid the person .. you try hard .. still meet but ignore .. .. Destined to meet  ..its sounds funny.. 
so.. in the end choice is yours ..good bad or ugly ..decision made from heart.. I say God you are GREAT.!!

Goerge Clooney and his lovely wife (marriages made in heaven celebrated on earth)

love at first sight

..I think I m among very few people in this world .. who has never gone through love at first sight .. when people come and tell me .."OMGD I m head over heels in love with him ...I m like ..is it ..jus at looks ??
I remember ..when I liked someone ..it took me couple of years to get into this love thing ..but then again not sure of myself ..and looking at my strict mother and Dad who served indian Army ..I was like .. it would be a war at home better keep this to myself and lead a care-free life .
..Life these days is very fast ..girls like to date .. check the bank balances and then give a chance ,,..
With chance I mean ..give it a try .. for your sexual needs ..which to me is disgusting !!
..I had friends in those days too when studying at Punjab University Chandigarh..doin all the stuff which was a big NO in indian community .. But then like dare devils they had broken all rules...
they dated .. fulfilled their desires ..and now I see them ..passing statements at others...

Coming to love at first sight ... wht do you love when you see a person at first?? looks , gestures..??
..well I would say how abt a car ..a sports car?? but then you need to spend life with him or sports car?? 
generally people ask .."hey in india you guys have arranged marriages??I m like yeah ..so??
so whts the criteria ??..is it money ,looks , education ... ..I was like I never .. thought of money ..yeah education was must cuz ..I hate people who have no manners ..or not so educated!!
.. but then ..how can you love a stranger?? I m like how can you like a person at first sight without even knowing him or her??
...A friend of mine ...  she is like you know the guy I dated before was so nice .. he knew to cook ...ironing the clothes  was the best part of him keeping house well-maintained .. but things dint work .. his job wasn't paying enough.. I thought I guessed it right ..poor thing spending all time at home ..where is time to make money!
..to my mind people who have love at first sight actually have no brains ... or should I say .. dumb?.
people say you fall in love ..but I would say ..rise in love use your brain...
..Arranged or love marriage give it a time ..use your own brain .. think before you jump to a decision ... livin relationships or commitment of marriage .. needs to be a wise decision ...
:)

Happy New year..2012

 

happy new year.. to all my friends and bloggers!
 Hope all of you have a blessed year.. happiness and prosperity in family and many more horizons to cover!
...every year a great promise to our-self..  keeping bars high ,new resolutions and new determination striving towards our goal.. crossing the hurdles...
..days into months n months into years ..we are in 2012!
Great !
I usually don’t make any resolutions ... jus take life as it comes!
but making "our-self optimistic person and not to indulge in any arguments whatsoever that’s my principle:)
... kyon ke

" Duniya chal nahi sakti banawati asoolon se"

"khusboo aah nahi sakti kagaz ke phoolon se"

so its truth n jus truth that wins!!!

...God bless you all and have a wonderful month of January its official winters so keep yourself warm and spread this warmth of love to others too :)

Marriage anniversary!

...today is my parents ( in-laws)marriage anniversary ...they met fell in love and got married..

Dad did his masters (m.tech)frm india and then his ph.d from ohio (US)..he worked in india at one of the top positions and then migrated to US..As per mom  ,she worked before marriage too as a school teacher.. 
life has been so lovely with them I came to US becuz of them ..they were always with me ..whenever I wanted they took care of me irrespective of the fact and urgency on other side..
the incident that touched my heart was..when I was expecting my first kid..and the due date was very close..on the other hand my hubby's brother was getting married on the same date..Mom left that marriage..and took care of me here in US.. and dad went to india with my bro-in-law and did all arrangements for his marriage alone ..jus becuz they wanted me to be in safe hands....
..Sometimes small little things make a mark in your life.. due to which it is always loved n respected.
Mom today works and keeps herself busy by reading or spending time with dad ..she is very fit.. goes to gym.. drives herself ,does all her work..recently they made a trip to india and came back happily..they usually take vacations off n on and try to keep their life busy..
Mom today works for pharmacy as supervisor... and Dad is a senior engineer in FORD ..he works on police Cars.. (designing)..
When I see them together.. they look so cool.. 42 two years of marriage and still so much in love :)
Amazing !!
I hope we also cover those milestones in same way lovingly...

happy marriage anniversary ..mama &papa..love you both!

My Birthday 24th july

 (technically this post was supposed to published on my birthday on 24th July 2011...But so much chaos at home ,I had to go out for a party which was a surprise to me and I came to know later ..when cake was brought.. I tried my best to publish this post on that day and throw inn some of my thoughts and get some good wishes back in return BUT it was like NO way....)
 my little one asking things one after another ,hubby on hunting mission :) looking for some lost rechargeable batteries ..and so on and so forth....

what I wrote....on my b;day
...its my birthday today....another year down.....
when I look back its like an era I covered with lot of hopes and aspirations for future..
Our birthdays are a validation of identity and existence.  Directly or indirectly, we evaluate ourselves against our life plan.  How many times have you said to yourself, “At this age I will be married” or “at this age I will be ready for retirement”.  Birthdays make us think, who are we? and where am I in my life?
 Birthday marks an age and success in life not to forget the number of failures and what we have been through in past years.
I am a person who never plans ahead but goes by his wishes(almighty)whatever I am or have achieved its due to my strong determination "I like this and I want it"
my decisions are very fast ,its very rare when I left undecided.Most of my decisions have been good and never repented on anything.
I remember at times I have been in  a very difficult situation (at work)...not knowing what to do now...no help and not knowing anyone...But there have been miracles :) unexpected help or strangers came inn,or an unexpected call ....

On Birthdays,the most valuable gift you could ever give is acknowledgement of their importance in your own life. To call someone "your love" is an honour that they have earned over the years by always being there for you, through good times and bad, regardless of the situation. The simple things in life are often the best, so consider a gift that conveys how much you value their love for them.
"my hubby fits into this bill.."
One of my online friends has sent me this lovely cake decorated with my name ...it is such a sweet gesture from him ,he is a fashion photographer and very humble person...probably one of the oldest friends in my social networking list ...
...I acknowledge this publicly as he reads my blogs too and this will definitely make him smile.
thanks for the cake.

hope this year has lots of more surprises .....

Beach.

.....we were walking on the beach......
...I had worn my favourite colour peach......

....He looked at me said "you look as pretty as the day we got married"...
.."You are my lovely wife....and nobody can hurt you in my life"......

...Come lets sit and have some wine.............
...so that my love for you can shine......

as he looked into my eyes and said "its been years we have been married"
...he said"BUT ..hey ..why do you look so worried??"...

....I said " I left my purse in the Car "
...he said"Aree yaar,,,,!!


I said "what happened to your pyaar (love)"
(he said)...its always you make silly mistakes and we end up in a war...

(I said)Please ....I never said you go and get it from the car...
(he said)...Hey !!..now it was your mistake and parking lot is not that far...

..As I got up ..holding my hand ...he said "I will get it ,parking lot is far"....
...as he came back and handed me the purse...I admired his qualities really are at par...

....love makes us understand each-other so Far...


.....I hope it always stays that well...and we don't yell....
.....accept each other as we are ,so that there is no war...

...Always,...people say ,men change after marriage as off before....
...I think its human nature and nothing is off for sure....


...Give them a chance and accept it as they are....
..they will care for you more ,then you are....

....this was my love story on the beach....

..I wanted to share this with my friends on my blog....
so that each one of us can remove" ThAT" misunderstanding fog...

and as we love and are ready to make compromises..
there are no guilt of disguises.....

common my friends,its never too late....
before they close the gate....

....all is well that ends well...no sharp edges ,no pain
love plays its role ...in main...

hope you like this poem and gimme an applause
its my first attempt as its a  noble cause ;)


Harman

Mothers Day (9th may 2010)

9th May is Mother’s Day- the one day in the year when we focus on taking time out to celebrate mothers and give thanks to them. In many places across the world cards will be made and flowers given out to mothers within the congregation. Spare a thought for those who have never been a mother.....its a blessing to be a mother!!!

its a mom who creates a world and make it stronger place with love and affection all over the world ....Moms play an important role in the family too.A kid always picks up from his or her mom (whatever she says)...kindness ,politeness and teachings are from moms as the mothers stay home most of the time even if its a working mom,to raise a kid its a full time job my hands are full I can say that..I have always been close to my mom though I was pampered by my dad more being an being only daughter after two sons ,but since moms stay with kids all the time so the children are attached to their moms more then dads.Its always said if a girl is educated and well read ..A generation is made..So a female should be taken care of whether its studies ,general habits or character..foundation is made from very first day.

Looking at the importance of mothers day,its just a small gesture of love or a token of love given to mom which we might have taken for granted but on this special day its for moms we need to reciprocate that...Specially for guys who always thinks its a marketing strategy and there is no need to show love with gifts or treat and moms are always in our heart..and blah blah blah...to them I would say..." Guys nobody is going to open your heart and see how much you love your mom but a small gestures brings smile and gives us blessings which is priceless".

I think we can never pay back for what our parents have done for us until we become a parent and then we realize,but there are people who never realize this till end of their lives.

I have seem some generous people who visit old homes and give a treat to all moms as their own moms and get blessings..on Mothers Day ..but those kinds are very few....

...TO ALL OF YOU "SPEND SOME TIME WITH YOUR MOMS AS A TREAT TO HER FOR ALL THAT SHE HAS DONE FOR YOU ,I THINK WE CAN NEVER PAY BACK BUT AT LEAST GIVE HER A SMALL GIFT SHE DESERVES AND YOU GET SOME BLESSINGS IN RETURN"

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY.

Marriage???

.. Marriage makes an incomplete human being a complete one..but it goes with age and responsibility..to nurture the relationship...I Believe only in marriage! no live-in relationships or any other kind of involvement ..to me its a blessing given to us with the permission of almighty and parents ..its our responsibility and efforts to make it into a beautiful relationship and proudly be a part of the society..I may sound old in my thoughts but ..I always believe in norms made for the "best of society".

A marriage is based on trust and love and the promise to be the best partner possible.People take it lightly and say "ITS A TAG"..Nope its not..Why?I think marriage is a great bond and tie between two people who truly love each other and they don't need to keep their relationship at test or give it a try before a wedlock..

Those who are sure about themselves and their love go for marriage ..otherwise its like keep trying and looking throughout life for an appropriate individual ..

..N remember..Life is Short...

for all those who r getting married on 11 April..

Congrats!

God Bless!!!

Love!

Love is in the Air...Valentine fever everywhere... love birds together..I went to a store yesterday looked at the Card.....it had a single rose... and said"The Man I Love"...with some beautiful words

"Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity. "
past few yrs we pick one "best" card from the shelf and treasure it ..jus putting yr now...no need of words ..whether its anniversary or valentine or birthday .. one Card is there ...all cards are displayed in my library jus pick the card and gift it ..by writing the present yr... My brother in -law came to our house and picked a card from the shelf ..and read the years from 2007 ..onwards..laughed and said ... Good idea!!! .but..I have so mch understanding with my wife ..we don't do that!! no cards.. now....jus a bunch of roses ..and teddy and chocolates.. otherwise Neetu (wife)wont let me enter the house... I laughed...good joke!!
today I met Neetu who happens to be my first cousin..married to my hubby's younger brother.. they live a block away from us..She was driving ,I was sitting next to her..she said..look at Imroz(husband) he gifted me a Bunch of roses ..teddy bear and box of chocolates in advance ..saying that If I forget tomorrow on valentine's day or don't have time ....so I finished my Job today itself and have no tensions now...
..Men can never improve .. she said.. ..;)

"LOVE"
"Love is as much of an object, as an obsession, everybody wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it, those who do will cherish it, be lost in it, and among all, never... never forget it."

Happy Valentines Day..to all of you

love or arranged???

Talking of love marriage or arranged marriage??which is better.. there has been lot of debates..on this issue..talking to one of my friends Kate yesterday..who asked me ..how did I meet my hubby??? when I told her about arranged marriage she started asking me all kinds of questions ..as to her it was kinda ..something new.. being a Chinese female ..this concept was new to her..

Kate.. who is twenty one years old ,married a Chinese guy of thirty eight years,as she told me and they met each other on a street ..as he lived a block away from her house.. ...they came to US..later as both of them come from a poor family and US was a boon for them ... they now run a salon and can afford all which they never thought of would be in their native place..

I asked Kate ..why did she marry an older guy .. if it was a kinda street love?;).. as Kate is a beautiful gurl and Steven her husband is kind of not so good ..looking guy.. ..she said ,love is Blind.. Well... I have no answer to that..!!!

talking of love marriage ..where marriage as per our own choice and we know exactly whats coming inn ,we cannot blame parents and have a fair chance to know a person better ..and even in a way to go ahead or not..

When two people are in love, they are at their best to impress the other person.they are at their best behaviour and project a lot of things that they are actually not. Our society is structured that way we are expected to be polite in public. It takes a while between couples to shed the veil. Most of the time, even after going out for a few years, when we actually live together, we are in for surprises. ...
Considering issue of love marriage where the couples .... who have solemnized love marriage would have to tackle all their crises on their own, because they might have been separated from their family. Resentment drives the parents and the relatives to remain dormant in case the married couple wants any financial or moral support - a common sight seen in love marriages in India. Due to this factor, many people do not want to marry without their parent's consent, because they would be ultimately cut off from the family ties.... Talking of arranged marriage where success rate of marriage is more compared to love marriage as there is strong support of parents and any kinda problem ..the whole family is ready to solve the matter....and put the couple back... ..... .... It is said that compromise is a factor that decides whether the marriage would work out or not. In case of love marriage, people might expect more from their partner, largely because they have fallen in love before marriage. This leads to lesser compromises, as the person expects more from his/her partner.... On the other hand, compromise and adjustments forms the foundation of arranged marriage, largely because the married couple does not have any preconceived notions or expectations from one another. The compromise factor might work wonders in case of most of the arranged marriages, while in love marriages, that might prove to be yet another cause for altercation. Due to this factor, people consider arranged marriage as long lasting and better than love marriage. ....Statistics place the divorce rate for arranged marriages much lower than those in the United States, where marriages out of love are the rule.....However, research also shows that the pressure a married couple encounters from both society as a whole, and from the respective families, suggests that divorce is often not an option..... Most of the time out of peer pressure ..or influence of friends, people are lured and want to get into pitfall..When I was studying in Punjab university Chandigarh.. gurls ended up having affairs and get into marriage leaving their studies .. as love was predominant factor at that age... Bollywood movies ..makes every gurl dream of prince which gets them into love marriage....
Being a very liberal person... to me a good family and a nice person is more important whether its love or arranged marriage... basically what matters is love and respect for each other... which comes from family values.. what we are ,will be taught to our kids... as it will be passed over to generations... ..I always defy divorces which are very common due to lack of respect and trust... ...
.....I was at store ..shopping as usual.. I heard an argument and turned back to see.. a guy yelling at his wife ..with all sorts of names ,an American female.. I assume that was her Ex-husband .. she was in tears..in front of everyone ..and then from her cell ..called 911(police) ... the guy.. slammed the door and ran..away... I think when thay took the vows ..it was all lovey dovey.. but.. now the situation was in front of the whole world..basically infatuation or attraction gets blurred ..after a while... Its only love , respect and trust ..that counts.. ...in any kind of marriage!!!!
LOVE OR ARRANGED

relationship!!

.. marriage anniversary..looking back when I got married ..at the age of twenty three ( this is my picture)and my hubby twenty five... we got committed,though it was arranged marriage ..when monty(hubby) came home .. to see me..as the whole procedure was through common army friends..but my position was very awkward since I was goin to meet him for the first time though I had seen his picture.. AS I entered the room ..I could see a tall guy..6'3 clean shaven sikh boy ..an engineer by profession...with his mom and aunt sitting in our living room....I went quietly and sat beside my mom..I saw his mom and was impressed ..a very sophisticated women wearing saree and kind face ..she made me feel comfortable and asked few questions ....and then before we I could see monty properly.. there was a power cut.. it was dark ..so our maid brought few candles and placed them on center table... so now we had candle light discussions ..then in an hour the whole area lit up.. power was back with a bang...mom told me talk to him ..we did talk for few minutes...but..there was strong eternity perfume all over the place I could smell... I knew he was good..nice decent person.. ..it was positive from both sides but..my mom had little problem as the boy was clean shaven and mom belongs to a conservative Sikh family..so she decided to reply after few days... as she had to take permission from Nanu(moms dad) since this will be first clean shaven boy in the family.... After lot of arguments with family at Amritsar..it was decided to go ahead ..and then ..finally got married.. wedding ......A big occasions ..all eyes focused on us and we, being centre of attraction made me feel so uncomfortable ..but cannot be avoided.... our ultimate goal in marriage -- which was to give each other happiness and not cause pain. It sounds simple enough, but can be very hard in practice. A new family and a new companion with lot of apprehensions ,it takes a while for understanding each other.. but my hubby's patience and temperament made me learn lot of things which I value today.. Initial years of marriage was fun with me talking and he laughing all the time ..but he made me learn many things especially not to loose temper.... We have seen lots of ups and downs in the married life but support of his ..parents Dad and Mom whom I respect and love ..and lived with them all the time made us stronger and a better person in life.. Coming to US with him was totally a different experience but ..we were very fortunate and welcomed by the whole family on the airport and a house set up for us was like a dream come true.. ..spending my life with him again and again would be my choice ..if given .. coming back in human form..a gem of a person who..respects women never raised a voice in so many years,never interferes .or keeps account of anything jus trust ... and love make us live happily ,,,,together....