Attention Seeking Disorder

its a very common problem ...and most of the social networking sites are working or making money on these lines of disorder among humans ...

specially females.. every damn pictures ..good bad or ugly is there ..jus for the heck of that attention..N all those road side romeos.. will fill that page with their weird comments.. needless to say that this attention was seeked and it came in so handy..

I had a friend who logged inn after brushing her teeth in the morning... and left at midnight ...whole day those updates and every damn picture ...on face-book

after some time it was surprise to her when one of the guys collected all those pictures compiled and made a video ..putting it on U tube..But I would say you always get back what you sow .. and responsible for your own deeds...

Many pages you can come across where random pictures of these kind of people have been picked up from their profiles and given name to those pages.. irrespective of any ones privacy..But who is responsible ? we ,our self..who post every minor detail and if you happen to look at these pages where random pictures are there ..all vulgar comments ..dirty filthy minds ... can be seen.

it goes hand in hand ..Attention seeking disorder and people who look for this kind of weakness in others.. even if you lock your pictures ..don’t forget there are friends from your own profile who do all this and pass pictures to their friends...

sometimes I feel its like checking your worth in public and their opinions...

the funniest updates you can read ...the dumb excuses you can make ... 

for no reason an ugly picture would be liked or praised...as" OMGD beautiful .."

 ...(all crap)

To me if you ever want to be praised it has to be real no pictures  Face-book or any other site  ..keep your privacy and never indulge into this fake world ...

Self claimed models N divas in abundance on face-book and other sites ..how many are real or beautiful?  .. those who are REAL divas they have only official pages and no real pictures,,, SAD isn't it!!such a contradictory thing..

These attention seekers make these sites successful and through these people then there are other set of  people who make their own business run.. ..its all linked..

do we really need to check our worth in public? we don’t have confidence?

friends forever.

.... do we really have time to meet our friends ..taking a vacation and pain to move out of the country to meet a classmate after years??

..can we really take out some precious time from busy schedule and spend some good money meeting our long lost friends ...found on face-book?

 ..My hubby who has found many of his friends around the globe...and try getting their numbers n keeping in touch with them through mails or texts or whatever possible... BUT I am surprised by the dedication of these friends who take time to meet-each other at every corner of the world...spending time and money both...

..if you read my MAYHEM blog .. ..his long lost friend from Australia came to meet him...he met his friends in Canada..and then my hubby  went to Canada ..to pick him up from the border.. they had good time over the weekend..

Then came a friend from India..found on facebook- ...who made a special trip to US and Canada to meet all classmates and they had some good time talking about their past .... and then he met some female friends on facebook ...they are classmates and some of them by chance are in Michigan..we met them at a party.(they all have done engineering together)...

Last weekend I was getting ready in the morning to meet a business client ..when I heard my land line ringing again and again.... I saw the caller ID its was from Edmonton Canada..

I didn't have time to pick the call I was getting late...maybe its some telemarketing people( sucks!!)...But then I saw some body was trying very hard to reach the number...I picked..I heard a Canadian Accent ...And said"yaa ..where are you calling from?" he said.."Actually I from Edmonton  and came to US ...I am in Michigan to meet my friend...My name is JaZ..we wanted to come to your place this weekend..."

I was actually taken aback... as this Jaz (long lost friend)was jus shown to me a week before on facebook  (that was pretty quick)my hubby saying "he was the cutest boy in our school ...he is born n raised in Canada "I asked my hubby ...how do you recognise them...faces change..."He said...his smile is Same..see,,showing me the picture ..lolz..I looked at him...I mean hats off to this friendship..."

I told my hubby... Jaz is here!!..(my hubby was sleeping till 11am)it was weekend...

he jumped from bed ...I was surprised at the alertness and dedication towards friends... He immediately picked his cell and told him ,he is waiting for him...and started giving him directions... 

I looked at them when they met ... most of them when they meet they get emotional ...wiping off the tears...(kaash hamaare bhi aisee dost hoteh...I wish I had that kind of friends)

laughing... talking..eating..punching ..pulling each others leg... talking about their past crushes.... We as wives are silent spectators and smile at each other...looking at them

...When it comes to us ..as females..its hard to find our school or college friends as last names tend to change after marriage for females and then WE have family, kids and patidev(hubby) whom we have to abide to certain extent their whims n fancies not to be forgotten..not jus ..go for vacations to meet long lost friends..

But still I would say this is the true example of friendship!

Social Networking

Just a few years ago, the idea of an online social network was revolutionary. While the Web has always provided a way for people to make connections with one another, social networking sites made it easier than ever to find old friends and make new ones. Today, it's rare to find someone who hasn't at least heard of Face book, My Space, Twitter or one of a hundred other social network....
you must be wondering why I picked up this topic?.... Its sad...when you see divorces or split ups due to these networking sites...every other person is there on these sites...the maturity matters though....
one of our friends got married this year .. ...if you see my earlier posts (marriage?)...I had mentioned..but it would be in this ugly way...(this marriage was through a matrimonial site)
The girl was already dating somebody on one of these sites ...she was ...smart ,educated and very pleasant person as known by her friends..when they told me to see the girl...I went to FB and checked her profile... I was surprised  to see such a good looking person still "SINGLE"...why?? I told people at home...they looked at me and said.."you should have been in some detective agency"I had my doubts....its not possible....(you know at home how it works at home if wise person like me gives  advice .....)anyways..
everybody was very happy,,,,boy is from a rich family...girl is from a mediocre background.....nice wedding......the girl was something too "NICE"...everybody was happy and so was I...may be I was wrong!!(I really felt bad at that time what I thought of her)
this girl within two months of marriage glued to FB all the time...and not interested in marital life ...then we heard some problems within few months of marriage...she kicked out everyone ..all relatives from her friends list...all the relatives had some suspicion as to what was going on......
Everybody thought it takes time to settle and  understand each other..but case was different she had a boyfriend before and had some arguments with him ,jus for the heck of showing him his place,how she settles with a rich guy...and make him jealous she did it!!....and now few months after marriage she is still keeping contacts with him...then one day she told her husband the "boyfriend story" and she wants to go back....(its weird)...without anybody's knowledge she hired a lawyer and went inn for divorce sending it to the parents(in-laws)..we tried talking to her mom and bro(dad is no more)...but this girl abused her mom like anything for ruining her life...
now the worst part... demanding lot of money for out of the court settlement with all the jewelery which was given to her...which is in hundred thousand dollars...and then she plans to get back to the original boyfriend.....
 They are heading for divorce...
.....a perfect example of greediness and third grade upbringing....(SAD!!)
now getting back to social networking sites...
“Positive and negative things can spread through these networks", but on balance if there’s too much negative stuff flowing through a network....these sites might dissolve in coming years...

I have seen...fifteen years of marriage going into shambles as the guy was dating someone on FB....now I see the wife ...with kids alone....
Are these networking sites have so much influence on our personal lives? are we showing our desperation in this way? many of the IDS are  fake...

I usually see during parties or get-together ..Mom s of teenage girls going berserk...as the study(room)has all facebook time goin on...
 I see so much personal information and pictures updated everyday ..every kinda weird party or weekend celebration pictures are posted...some ladies and men without fail on FB ...some updates regularly....even if there is a tussle at home it will be on face book too....everybody knows whats going on at others place....

Everything has its pros and cons and every person has its maturity level....of thinking and responding ,talking about the adults...its pathetic to see breaking a relationship or a marriage for somebody on facebook whom you have just met a month ago and not even knowing about the real personality how could somebody without knowing get carried away.....

are these social networking sites meant for these purposes??

friendship day..

siblings by chance,friends by choice!!!
I always believe in this phrase....few friends but good ones ..behind this theory...
friends I had many ...online and people I know personally but I kinda a gel with very few...it depends on comfort level too...and sense of humor .
Schools I have changed many since dad was in army and got posted every two to three years so kind a hard to remember the friends too...
Anju my school friend till date from my last school in Mumbai is the one I truly remember..and talk to her but she is not on fb or orkut..that's the agony!!!
Zeenu from New York another one I like ..is one good friend till date....
Simran from Delhi is another good friend I gel with..
Deepika from dubai is another pet friend of mine..Miss India ...
and ..online friends are many ...
Bloggers I like....
UMA.. I like her simplicity and her way of cooking in her blog.
Bikram....Avery true and simple person in his writings and thoughts reminds me often of my punjab :)
Gaurav...very practical and simple in his blog reminds me of mumbai :)
Dharamjit...MY first online blogger frd..seems to be lost in Hyderabad..no blogging nowadays..
Raj.....Very straight forward person.... like it or leave it ..attitude! in his blogs.
Karthik..I like his love stories...I laugh so loudly sometimes....all college and canteen stuff...
Chandrika shubham....Short and crisp blog... like crispy lays :)I like her writings...
Shahid...Nice, but very few blogs...once in blue moon :)
Haddock....His blogs are like vintage CARS....very nice, unique with personal pictures...
Shobhaa de..I am a fan of her writings... all blasts, straight on face...
Swats...the girl I can relate to ...in her blogs..
Shanu...very humorous ..thoughts in her writings...at times.
Its hard to keep up ...once we are married but I still try to keep link with everyone through blog or orkut or fb or cell... and its always reciprocal.
True friends who can die for you are all in books and films I haven't seen or tested anyone..and chances are bleak :P ....but to me friends in need are friends indeed..
*******HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY****

Tagged!

WEll Amigos by tagging me you have got me in a net ..So I guess time to reveal some secrets ..Bikram ...his blog "me and my random thoughts "seven things you don't know about me..Well I would say "seven secrets"...so..lets start...with the first one!

1) I am a sikh but born in ..Panagarh bengal ..dad was posted there at that time ..and after that seen most of India ..starting from J&K to all the way down south..changed at least ten Schools ...a challenge every time to prove myself...

2)Spent good ten years in Mumbai and then finally settled in Ludhiana...Did my masters in Bsness Administration from chandigarh and then two years of college in USA..in IT(programming).

3)My first job in India, immediately after masters was a lecturer in Boys college ..teaching under grads ..had some real good experiences in kicking out some guys from the college....after that it was total PEACE... NO messing up GUYS the message was clear..to ALL.

4)got married at the age of twenty three and coincidentally my hubby's best friend was in the same college where I taught..and I always wondered how he knew the color of my dress everyday...

5)not many people know my full name as HARMAN...I am very popular with my nick name its only after marriage this name became popular ha haa haaa....but my cousins ,friends and even hubby call me by the same nick name...my friends recognize me by my pic on orkut or face book. coz Harman is an official name only

6)All my online accounts are made by hubby ..whether its GMail or orkut or face book or twitter or blogs or my pictures ..that needs to be taken care of... I seriously don't have patience and time..but its trust between us..

7)last but not the least....not many people know this, I am daughter-in -law of an IAS (Indian Administrative services)officer and I am married ..to an Automotive engineer from US..who designs Cars..for GM, last year they released "Buick La Crosse"...in case if you are inquisitive to know!

that's it!..YO ...I am done!!!
I am not tagging anyone Coz I dont know many people here... except Uma and Bikram

I hope Zeenu you are happy to see my pictures now in the blog.

How many of you ..knew about me!!!lemme know..and thanks bikram once again!!
(I have removed my pictures now for some personal reasons)

global friendship..

Friendship around the globe..on-line friends..talking to one of my friends who was upset today as his girlfriend left him for no apparent reason..I was surprised when he told me she is trapped by a gang and they told her to delete him ,even this friend of mine ,his a/c was also deleted few days back and he had sent me a message from his second ID saying somebody played dirty with him and deleted his account as his password was hacked.. I am surprised what kinda place is orkut??.no security..every other day password is hacked,people take out grudges on each other...but trapped by a gang is a big lie,I cannot believe somebody can force you to delete your friend and blackmail you for not talking to him...we are all educated people and know exactly where the help is available whether its India or US ..these stories are fake like being trapped or blackmailed ,its just an excuse to ditch your boyfriend or delete him from your friends list ,its a clear cut signal to stay away ,as you are unwanted and there is somebody else in the picture....I told my friend,he was in tears as she played with his emotions taking him for a stride.. talking to him on his cell everyday and now building up stories..both of these are in my friends list..
This guy is an MBA,I believe marketing manager holding a good position in a corporate and I think drawing a six figure salary .. very sincere and sensitive person..the girl as far as I know is a computer wizard very smart in graphics and good looking person..I usually get best scraps from her..don't know the whole story ..but looks like this gurl is dumping the guy but doesn't have guts or courage to tell the real reason.. so building up stories... Well there are all types of people in this world ..
But I am happy ...since one of my old friends is back in my friends list... My all good friends are stars of my friends list ..they glow,twinkle and make me smile too... I definitely miss them when they are not in my friends list...