friends .

On Friendship Day people try their best to thank all those special angels called friends in their lives from the bottom of their hearts. There are some people who believe that friendship is so strong a relationship that it needs no special day for celebration. But then  .........its a tried and tested fact that every relationship, no matter how strong needs some recognition and bonding .......this Friendship Day enables you to do just the same that is it allows you to give due recognition to the beautiful bond of friendship and love which you share with your friend.

At times we get so busy with our lives that we just start taking our friends for granted and just start neglecting them. On such occasions this Friendship Day reminds us of the importance of the friends in our lives so that we can never ever ignore the special beings sent on this earth by the supreme power just for us.

Thus take some extra time out of your busy life and try to spend some valuable time with your friends on this Friendship Day as you never know when the time will lapse and you wont even get the slightest time to say a simple thanks to your friend.

"friendship is precious, not only in the shade, but in the sunshine of life, and thanks to a benevolent arrangement the greater part of life is sunshine"

"happy friendship day"

Sunday..

..its Sunday..I feel so sleepy at times specially when its followed by some late night weekend party ..So quite outside ....looking out of the window ,I guess Monday fever has already started and I guessed it right..look at the people getting ready by bringing back laundered shirts for morning.

sometimes I miss my friends and people I haven't seen  since years...I have lost their phone numbers and they are not on any networking sites too,those who are there don't xcess them anymore or may be at the point of saturation.(networking sites)

I love this song its specially when you miss your friends....its one of my favourites...hope you all had a good weekend.

favours.

....I never understood this mentality or mental people who never hesitate and ask for favours .....you might have chatted with them just for few hrs in the whole year and do not know them personally But its strange when they say

*"hey Harman you can arrange a sponsorship for me to visit US,I will be so thankful"
I am like"hello do I really know you? its not possible I cant do that ..sorry about that"

*Friend"you know what ,I had heard that all Indians when they migrate to US ,UK or Canada or any other foreign country their blood also gets white in colour  just like snow...

*...Me"ok (whatever...crap)"

next one...another sample

*friend "hey how r u? can I ask you a favour plz plz...."

*Me.."ya go ahead ..what kinda favour??"

*Friend "you have a defence background ,could you please tell your dad that I want his Army canteen card to get some stuff on subsidised rates as it is very expensive in India hard to survive in this inflation...(these are those people who love their motherland)"

*Me"hey...are you ok? my dad will never do that or misuse the card ok ,Got it!"

*Friend"...ok ,a friend in need is a friend indeed ..I guess you don't fit in that slot.

*Me...Well I don't need to....


..I am not a people pleaser when it comes to breaking all the set of rules and going overboard.
Pleasing others and ignoring your own needs can affect your relationships with people, the things you do, the way you talk and more importantly the choices that you make in life. It can ultimately drain you emotionally and physically and even lead you to depression.
I was a people pleaser one time .....

I remember I was asked for help ...and I couldn't get it done due to legal hassles for which 
I felt bad that I didn't say the word "NO" and resentful that the favour was a lot of extra work and time that I didn't have to spare. I feel angry and resentful at the friend for asking such favour's from me and at times I feel they are taking advantage of my kindness and the fact that I can't say no. Over time, I end up avoiding the friend altogether when the real problem is with me. It is an endless cycle of people pleasing. I don't always say it and admit it but I do let people take advantage of me. By always doing favours for others what I don't want to do and going out of my way to make others happy and ignoring my own needs, I am just leaving the door open for others to take advantage and manipulate me.which I dont want to do it now.
Since I am a mother, I know it's okay and I feel happy when I put the needs of my children before my own. However, when I constantly put the needs of others in front of my own - there's the problem. I mean well but if you're anything like me, your actions are sure to eventually lead you to anger and resentment. The solution to people pleasing is SELF EMPOWERMENT. You can't change other people but you can work on yourself.

friendship day..

siblings by chance,friends by choice!!!
I always believe in this phrase....few friends but good ones ..behind this theory...
friends I had many ...online and people I know personally but I kinda a gel with very few...it depends on comfort level too...and sense of humor .
Schools I have changed many since dad was in army and got posted every two to three years so kind a hard to remember the friends too...
Anju my school friend till date from my last school in Mumbai is the one I truly remember..and talk to her but she is not on fb or orkut..that's the agony!!!
Zeenu from New York another one I like ..is one good friend till date....
Simran from Delhi is another good friend I gel with..
Deepika from dubai is another pet friend of mine..Miss India ...
and ..online friends are many ...
Bloggers I like....
UMA.. I like her simplicity and her way of cooking in her blog.
Bikram....Avery true and simple person in his writings and thoughts reminds me often of my punjab :)
Gaurav...very practical and simple in his blog reminds me of mumbai :)
Dharamjit...MY first online blogger frd..seems to be lost in Hyderabad..no blogging nowadays..
Raj.....Very straight forward person.... like it or leave it ..attitude! in his blogs.
Karthik..I like his love stories...I laugh so loudly sometimes....all college and canteen stuff...
Chandrika shubham....Short and crisp blog... like crispy lays :)I like her writings...
Shahid...Nice, but very few blogs...once in blue moon :)
Haddock....His blogs are like vintage CARS....very nice, unique with personal pictures...
Shobhaa de..I am a fan of her writings... all blasts, straight on face...
Swats...the girl I can relate to ...in her blogs..
Shanu...very humorous ..thoughts in her writings...at times.
Its hard to keep up ...once we are married but I still try to keep link with everyone through blog or orkut or fb or cell... and its always reciprocal.
True friends who can die for you are all in books and films I haven't seen or tested anyone..and chances are bleak :P ....but to me friends in need are friends indeed..
*******HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY****

Schedule..

looking at schedule ..its busy day again ..just came from a friends place and now its time to go out and meet a client ..for my work..I like to be busy it helps me to get away with all the thoughts and I always consider people lucky when they move towards constructive reason..

Life has ups and down.. My friends always call me"BSY PEOPLE"..I don't give my cell number unnecessarily..or call people unless its really important ,we meet only in parties or social gatherings during weekend which I think is enough ..meeting or calling on weekdays doesn't make any sense unless its important..may be I might sound rude here...

My online friends I greet through emails or chat once in while ..only those I like and consider my friends ..to me my self respect and dignity is very important ..taught by my parents ..

I think there is no desperation..more of a satisfied person in life with such a lovely companion.. this is just a personal thought....

My Best Friend Part-II

Arsh wanted help from me..like what?

she asked me to do a favor on her and get AP's no ...giving me fine details of his residence and office as supposedly the no was changed...

Getting no for her was not a big deal but authenticity of situation was more important for me as there are many fake IDs online and most of the time its someone else ....(male behind a female ID) so I told her to show me some pics and some proofs though I sounded rude at that time but there was no choice..

She did show me some personal pictures and proofs and I was convinced.....

I got her the no ..in a week and she got hooked again... :) but not for long ,her mom came to US as a visiting doc..in a hospital and was here for six months.. she came to know very soon..and then ..another major fireworks at home..

Panicked ..ARSH called me and said to talk to her mom..I convinced her mom that I got the no for her and they should accept this relationship otherwise its gonna be a big trouble ,but I think my advice went into TRASH..

Then they found a guy in NY..an IT professional ..to settle her down..then as a matter of fact..I decided to talk to her mom..and then told her about US laws and repercussions ..its just a phone call away..

Arsh is avery nice girl in spite of so much extortion she never complained..but this action crossed all the limits ..so we (arsh &me) decided to do this if things didn't fall in its place..

It worked and her mom understood the situation and consequences ,talked to her dad and tried to convince him.. it took almost an year to convince him though but ...it happened...

In the mean time AP was in a devastated condition COZ..Arsh dad is his senior (boss) and they met each other most of the time .. its was kind of hilarious situation..(to me)

Last year ..in December ARSH got engaged to AP....she was on her Christmas vacation to India..

..One wonderful person I met as a stranger N now she is my "The Bst Frd"

..some wonderful quotes..

"A Friend is one who walks in when others walk out"

"A good friend will never let their friend do stupid things..ALONE"

"There is nothing worth the winning, but laughter and the love of friends."

..Some wonderful friends, some good stories ,life is full of surprises and every package is amazing only ..some need a helping hand ..be generous and this generosity will come back to u..

"For Sure"

(I am sorry ,my computer went crazy while publishing this blog was so stubborn to accept the text ,if there are any mistakes just pls ignore them!)

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MY BST FRIEND!!I

She always wanted me to write about her ..its kinda strange as we meet some strangers and they become our best friends forever ...
My best friend is ARSH. We’ve been best friends for a year. She is very unique in many ways. I can describe her as a very creative, imaginative, fun, exciting, and hyper person.

"Our friendship is very strong and we would always talk to each other if we have a problem. We never fought. Never. And I think we never will, because we agree on everything and we’re really similar in many ways.

I like how ARSH is very unique and has her own style of being herself. This sounds weird, but that’s how I describe ARSH..."
She’s just very… herself. The story of how we met is also interesting.

..I met her online as a complete stranger in 2009,through a common friend ..she is twenty six yrs old Jat sikh gurl, a passionate horse rider pursuing her degree in New york for business networking...She got enrolled on scholarship and came all the way from India.

When I talked to her online for very first time ,she was in pathetic state,as she was forcibly sent to US even though it was on scholarship....as a punishment by her dad for falling in love ...The irony was ,this guy whom she loves happens to be in her dads unit..(gurl is from defence background)Dad is (serving) Brig ..and guy is Major in Indian army..they are from the same city ..
She met AP in a party ..for the first time,a tall six feet guy standing near the bar ..who came to her, asked her for a soft drink ,sitting beside her dad she smiled and refused , but she could see his eyes following her....before she left the party he managed to ask her name!

Arsh comes from a very good family ..her mom is neurosurgeon and has a license to practice in US and her brother is in Med school California ..

After the party Arsh had no contact with this guy for few weeks,then one day playing tennis she saw him watching her in the club ..and after the game he came and introduced him and then they met in the club ..regularly after the game.. but her dad soon came to know about this from one of the juniors ...and then ..some good fire works at home..she was not allowed in the club ,was at house arrest....in the mean time she got her scholarship and invitation from the NY university ..
AP, this guy ..tried to call her but her cell phone service was disconnected and then she was sent to NY for further studies..at her uncles place (dad's brother).... for six months it was jus every other person in the family kept an eye on her...no contact with any of her friends in India..

..I was surprised at her pathetic state when she narrated her story.....as she asked me for HELP!!!

...How did I help her ?

(will continue in nxt blog)

global friendship..

Friendship around the globe..on-line friends..talking to one of my friends who was upset today as his girlfriend left him for no apparent reason..I was surprised when he told me she is trapped by a gang and they told her to delete him ,even this friend of mine ,his a/c was also deleted few days back and he had sent me a message from his second ID saying somebody played dirty with him and deleted his account as his password was hacked.. I am surprised what kinda place is orkut??.no security..every other day password is hacked,people take out grudges on each other...but trapped by a gang is a big lie,I cannot believe somebody can force you to delete your friend and blackmail you for not talking to him...we are all educated people and know exactly where the help is available whether its India or US ..these stories are fake like being trapped or blackmailed ,its just an excuse to ditch your boyfriend or delete him from your friends list ,its a clear cut signal to stay away ,as you are unwanted and there is somebody else in the picture....I told my friend,he was in tears as she played with his emotions taking him for a stride.. talking to him on his cell everyday and now building up stories..both of these are in my friends list..
This guy is an MBA,I believe marketing manager holding a good position in a corporate and I think drawing a six figure salary .. very sincere and sensitive person..the girl as far as I know is a computer wizard very smart in graphics and good looking person..I usually get best scraps from her..don't know the whole story ..but looks like this gurl is dumping the guy but doesn't have guts or courage to tell the real reason.. so building up stories... Well there are all types of people in this world ..
But I am happy ...since one of my old friends is back in my friends list... My all good friends are stars of my friends list ..they glow,twinkle and make me smile too... I definitely miss them when they are not in my friends list...