Thursday, August 26, 2010

Tagged!!(confessions)


thanks RAJ for tagging me..
The theme is I have to confess few facts about me.....
http://rajsramblings.blogspot.com/2010/08/i-am-tagged-again.html
Confessions..
1) I am a poor singer I confess thou I try my best but my hubby ends up laughing or getting up from the place from where I am singing....he doesn't want me to be offended but he cannot control his laughter..so ends up coughing loudly...which means I should stop ...which upsets me at times!!!

2)I like to read a lot ..sometimes its offensive for those who are sitting next to me ,thinking I am ignoring them...

3)you can say its my habit or attitude when online or otherwise I like to talk to people who have command over the language....

4)I would definitely build a charity home for homeless one day in India,,which is my ultimate wish ..specially in Mumbai

5)Helping a genuine needy person..which I always do ... gives me a peace of mind....

6)I am a firm believer in GOD and his submissions..good bad or ugly ..I always think there is reason for these instances and definitely try to decode it and the end of the day!

7) I loose my temper very soon I confess specially if its an eve teasing....

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Pathetic...

..Women s liberation in 21st century where its holding positions beyond expectations and flying high but the other end same women is being abused in domestic violence and or being negotiated in corporates..
Such inhuman treatment to women where every day a women is either abused by HIS family or being emotionally tortured for bearing a heir to the family ..being sold for money or burnt to get money .....
There are numerous stories some heard and some unseen ...This article ..hit me hard for days ..thinking about this girl AISHA(how much pain she has gone through ,so much humiliation)
her nose and ears had been cut off - with the approval of a Taliban commander - by her abusive husband as punishment for running away.
18-year-old was reportedly given away by her family in childhood as a "blood debt" and was subsequently married to a Taliban fighter.
His family abused her It is amazing living in this day and age that this is happening in parts of the world..
recaptured and mutilated by her husband.as per aisha
she says When they cut off my nose and ears, I passed out,"

This story began when Aisha was just 8 years old.

Her father had promised her hand in marriage, along with that of her baby sister's, to another family in a practice called "baad."

"Baad" in Pashtunwali, the law of the Pashtuns, is a way to settle a dispute between rival families.

At 16, she was handed over to her husband's father and 10 brothers, who she claims were all members of the Taliban in Oruzgan province. Aisha didn't even meet her husband because he was off fighting in Pakistan.

"I spent two years with them and became a prisoner," she says

Tortured and abused, she couldn't take it any longer and decided to run away. Two female neighbors promising to help took her to Kandahar province.

But this was just another act of deception.

When they arrived to Kandahar her female companions tried to sell Aisha to another man.

All three women were stopped by the police and imprisoned. Aisha was locked up because she was a runaway. And although running away is not a crime, in places throughout Afghanistan it is treated as one if you are a woman.

A three-year sentence was reduced to five months when President Hamid Karzai pardoned Aisha. But eventually her father-in-law found her and took her back home.

That was the first time she met her husband. He came home from Pakistan to take her to Taliban court for dishonoring his family and bringing them shame.

The court ruled that her nose and ears must be cut off. An act carried out by her husband in the mountains of Oruzgan where they left her to die.

But she survived.

And with the help of an American Provincial Reconstruction Team in Oruzgan and the organization Women for Afghan Women (WAW), she is finally getting the help and protection she needs.

Offers have been pouring in to help Aisha, but there are many more women suffering in silence.

The United Nations estimates that nearly 90 percent of Afghanistan's women suffer from some sort of domestic abuse. This in a country where there are only about eight women's shelters to provide sanctuary from the cruelty they face. And all of the eight are privately run.

its cruel ....inhuman and I think it may be any religion ,caste or creed ..God never forgives those Acts..everybody has to stand in the same place in front of him(almighty)and each of us has to pay for our own acts one should never forget that!!

Thursday, August 12, 2010

in terms of MONEY!


....reading all the blogs ...and goin through the latest in picture ...in INDIA..I was kinda little surprised how fast we are adopting the western lifestyle ..though DIL HAI HINDUSTHANI...but things are more in western flavor...
My bro came from India for vacation ...to US..he is with us for few days...I met him after five years, it was very emotional and touching moment for me...sitting and remembering good old days was fun and fighting for small little things when we were kids ...and usually I ended up crying ...and bro making fun of me looking at my tears made retaliate ...hit him hard..
I could relate to Jagjits singhs ghazal ..kagaz ki kashti ...every word makes me emotional...
speaking in terms of money..I read a blog named packages...
http://indiaoftomorrow.blogspot.com/2010/07/packages.html
I remembered an incident in reality which I would like today to share with my friends in my blog...
Life runs on money its an accepted fact with no ifs and buts...but to this extent where we think in terms of money at this length..
...I have a worker named Mehmood khan...hailing from India ...I usually talk to him quite often ...he must be in mid fifties....he has two jobs ,making both ends meet ..he is a very hard worker...I once met his family his wife and mother....so I kinda knew the family members too
One day ..I met MR Mehmood and as a courtesy I asked about his family...he was kind of sad ..and said his mom is no more..I payed my condolences ..and asked him about the funeral ...he said its done last week and that he got a very good DEAL...
I was actually surprised by the term DEAL...
the land for grave was " buy one get one free"so he got one portion of land for himself too and payed in parts for both of these lands...
I asked him why did he get land for himself? he said...I am not going to live forever so why not buy now and his grave will be right next to his mom,both will be together...
Mr Mehmood told me funeral expenses are very high so its better to think when alive so that its not a burden for the family later...
Life is so mechanical ...we thinks in terms of money without sentimental effects,Coz everything has to be payed for....its pathetic though but one way its also good thinking not to put financial burden on the family ...who's alive.
We get letters here in mail often to plan our funerals when alive as an event and get a good deal...I throw these letters in trash but when I heard Mr Mehmood I opened one of these letters to see ..yes It was exactly the way...I heard from MR Mehmood...
Very strange!!!

Sunday, August 1, 2010

friendship day..


siblings by chance,friends by choice!!!
I always believe in this phrase....few friends but good ones ..behind this theory...
friends I had many ...online and people I know personally but I kinda a gel with very few...it depends on comfort level too...and sense of humor .
Schools I have changed many since dad was in army and got posted every two to three years so kind a hard to remember the friends too...
Anju my school friend till date from my last school in Mumbai is the one I truly remember..and talk to her but she is not on fb or orkut..that's the agony!!!
Zeenu from New York another one I like ..is one good friend till date....
Simran from Delhi is another good friend I gel with..
Deepika from dubai is another pet friend of mine..Miss India ...
and ..online friends are many ...
Bloggers I like....
UMA.. I like her simplicity and her way of cooking in her blog.
Bikram....Avery true and simple person in his writings and thoughts reminds me often of my punjab :)
Gaurav...very practical and simple in his blog reminds me of mumbai :)
Dharamjit...MY first online blogger frd..seems to be lost in Hyderabad..no blogging nowadays..
Raj.....Very straight forward person.... like it or leave it ..attitude! in his blogs.
Karthik..I like his love stories...I laugh so loudly sometimes....all college and canteen stuff...
Chandrika shubham....Short and crisp blog... like crispy lays :)I like her writings...
Shahid...Nice, but very few blogs...once in blue moon :)
Haddock....His blogs are like vintage CARS....very nice, unique with personal pictures...
Shobhaa de..I am a fan of her writings... all blasts, straight on face...
Swats...the girl I can relate to ...in her blogs..
Shanu...very humorous ..thoughts in her writings...at times.
Its hard to keep up ...once we are married but I still try to keep link with everyone through blog or orkut or fb or cell... and its always reciprocal.
True friends who can die for you are all in books and films I haven't seen or tested anyone..and chances are bleak :P ....but to me friends in need are friends indeed..
*******HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY****