love at first sight

..I think I m among very few people in this world .. who has never gone through love at first sight .. when people come and tell me .."OMGD I m head over heels in love with him ...I m like ..is it ..jus at looks ??
I remember ..when I liked someone ..it took me couple of years to get into this love thing ..but then again not sure of myself ..and looking at my strict mother and Dad who served indian Army ..I was like .. it would be a war at home better keep this to myself and lead a care-free life .
..Life these days is very fast ..girls like to date .. check the bank balances and then give a chance ,,..
With chance I mean ..give it a try .. for your sexual needs ..which to me is disgusting !!
..I had friends in those days too when studying at Punjab University Chandigarh..doin all the stuff which was a big NO in indian community .. But then like dare devils they had broken all rules...
they dated .. fulfilled their desires ..and now I see them ..passing statements at others...

Coming to love at first sight ... wht do you love when you see a person at first?? looks , gestures..??
..well I would say how abt a car ..a sports car?? but then you need to spend life with him or sports car?? 
generally people ask .."hey in india you guys have arranged marriages??I m like yeah ..so??
so whts the criteria ??..is it money ,looks , education ... ..I was like I never .. thought of money ..yeah education was must cuz ..I hate people who have no manners ..or not so educated!!
.. but then ..how can you love a stranger?? I m like how can you like a person at first sight without even knowing him or her??
...A friend of mine ...  she is like you know the guy I dated before was so nice .. he knew to cook ...ironing the clothes  was the best part of him keeping house well-maintained .. but things dint work .. his job wasn't paying enough.. I thought I guessed it right ..poor thing spending all time at home ..where is time to make money!
..to my mind people who have love at first sight actually have no brains ... or should I say .. dumb?.
people say you fall in love ..but I would say ..rise in love use your brain...
..Arranged or love marriage give it a time ..use your own brain .. think before you jump to a decision ... livin relationships or commitment of marriage .. needs to be a wise decision ...
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Dressing up sensibly..

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I met shina  again .. after a year almost ..I couldn't recognize her ..she looked different ..Gained weight some scars on her body ..
Shina is one of our clients.23 yrs old...I had been seeing her off and on ..but lately she disappeared ..no clue..
Shina is a white blonde I knew from some time, ..I always wanted to tell her to dress appropriately as I always saw her in skimpy outfits and plunging necklines .. But couldn't say as this was something very personal I felt ..
I might sound weird here but when a female has big boobs she should be conscious rather then flaunting ..I Being an Asian American and hailing from India we were always taught to dress up in respectful way..its not just us but to for others too to have respect for us..
Talking about shin looking at her I asked her "hey long time no see..whts up??'
Shina looking at me said "herman you know I was trapped by bikers.. but luckily saved" I was like ...wht???..
Here goes the story
(as said by her)
Shina was driving on the freeway ..  on her little car.. saw couple of bikers behind her .. the chase followed when they started hooting at her ..this happened for couple of minutes left ..right n center.. They were trying to confuse her ..and not knowing wht to do she dialed 911 looking at the bikers gang ..but before cops could come inn the car hit the concrete wall on the side and she fell down .. she was bleeding profusely .. ..the cops came inn by then when she was on the road .. and took her to the hospital ..laying there for months with scars and bumps .. fracture in leg .. she could barely move..paid a heavy price .. no job no money!!
She said I was saved at the nick of the time..thankful to God
..when you move in the crowd be a part of it .. nothing should give  false alarms to people for which you have to pay a heavy price..
Dressing is for our self .. less or more clothes BUT APPROPRIATE ..that should be the key ..
bra tops like kim kardashian.. with skimpy shorts will give wrong signals to people .. may be not the first time ..you might enjoy attention.. but then in the long run it might put you in trouble ..
Dress appropriately ..dress respectfully..

better b Safe then Sorry