love at first sight

..I think I m among very few people in this world .. who has never gone through love at first sight .. when people come and tell me .."OMGD I m head over heels in love with him ...I m like ..is it ..jus at looks ??
I remember ..when I liked someone ..it took me couple of years to get into this love thing ..but then again not sure of myself ..and looking at my strict mother and Dad who served indian Army ..I was like .. it would be a war at home better keep this to myself and lead a care-free life .
..Life these days is very fast ..girls like to date .. check the bank balances and then give a chance ,,..
With chance I mean ..give it a try .. for your sexual needs ..which to me is disgusting !!
..I had friends in those days too when studying at Punjab University Chandigarh..doin all the stuff which was a big NO in indian community .. But then like dare devils they had broken all rules...
they dated .. fulfilled their desires ..and now I see them ..passing statements at others...

Coming to love at first sight ... wht do you love when you see a person at first?? looks , gestures..??
..well I would say how abt a car ..a sports car?? but then you need to spend life with him or sports car?? 
generally people ask .."hey in india you guys have arranged marriages??I m like yeah ..so??
so whts the criteria ??..is it money ,looks , education ... ..I was like I never .. thought of money ..yeah education was must cuz ..I hate people who have no manners ..or not so educated!!
.. but then ..how can you love a stranger?? I m like how can you like a person at first sight without even knowing him or her??
...A friend of mine ...  she is like you know the guy I dated before was so nice .. he knew to cook ...ironing the clothes  was the best part of him keeping house well-maintained .. but things dint work .. his job wasn't paying enough.. I thought I guessed it right ..poor thing spending all time at home ..where is time to make money!
..to my mind people who have love at first sight actually have no brains ... or should I say .. dumb?.
people say you fall in love ..but I would say ..rise in love use your brain...
..Arranged or love marriage give it a time ..use your own brain .. think before you jump to a decision ... livin relationships or commitment of marriage .. needs to be a wise decision ...
:)

Girls VS boys :)

... its a hard  reality:)
have a nice weekend...

my journey of life!

...jus two days away from new year....today is twenty ninth December when my journey of life started...the day I got married...and my world changed..he walked into my life as a breath of fresh air...
My journey actually started after I met him... we have many similarities ..we come from same town ,we have same first name initial...we have same taste of music and movies...we have parents who share same birth dates .. ..his lucky two numbers are my house numbers coincidentally..his grand parents and my grand parents were good friends....and many more...its like tailor made..
We Share all the minute details as to what happened all day round and how to get things fixed ..my trouble shooter...he has an answer to all my problems...never lets me down ...Smart..Master of all arts!
He came back from Canada after staying three months...he was sent  to Germany in-between this phase...I could not believe seeing him in Germany.. posting all his pictures ..in detail...
My biggest Critique.. reading my blogs...and tells me where I need improvement even if I don't like it...very genuine in his opinion ...He will never Brag for his biggest achievements ,he will never discuss outside his family ,never looses temper...never gets into any kind of argument....very introvert but very observant ..he accepted me as I am ,never wanted any changes unless it appeals me...gave me lot of independence never asked me why??relationship is based on trust...
Every person has some flaws too...where he lacks too....not very organized...his wallet ..cell phone.all around the places...sun glasses he has many pairs coz he never bothers about them...
very generous at heart...if anybody cries in front of him...for money...he is ready to give whatever he has in his pocket..even if its a pretend...has love for everyone ...even if other person ....has some malice for him...
My last trip to India he had spend lot of money on tips to every other person unnecessarily...taxi driver,rickshaw,waiter, beggars.....to see ever body smiling....says.."Aree Dua milegi"( get blessings from everyone)which is priceless!!
I love him the way he is...thank my stars when I see women in trouble for wrong choice of life partner....
God has been very kind to me...I always believe in
"Marriages are made in heaven celebrated on earth"

Social Networking

Just a few years ago, the idea of an online social network was revolutionary. While the Web has always provided a way for people to make connections with one another, social networking sites made it easier than ever to find old friends and make new ones. Today, it's rare to find someone who hasn't at least heard of Face book, My Space, Twitter or one of a hundred other social network....
you must be wondering why I picked up this topic?.... Its sad...when you see divorces or split ups due to these networking sites...every other person is there on these sites...the maturity matters though....
one of our friends got married this year .. ...if you see my earlier posts (marriage?)...I had mentioned..but it would be in this ugly way...(this marriage was through a matrimonial site)
The girl was already dating somebody on one of these sites ...she was ...smart ,educated and very pleasant person as known by her friends..when they told me to see the girl...I went to FB and checked her profile... I was surprised  to see such a good looking person still "SINGLE"...why?? I told people at home...they looked at me and said.."you should have been in some detective agency"I had my doubts....its not possible....(you know at home how it works at home if wise person like me gives  advice .....)anyways..
everybody was very happy,,,,boy is from a rich family...girl is from a mediocre background.....nice wedding......the girl was something too "NICE"...everybody was happy and so was I...may be I was wrong!!(I really felt bad at that time what I thought of her)
this girl within two months of marriage glued to FB all the time...and not interested in marital life ...then we heard some problems within few months of marriage...she kicked out everyone ..all relatives from her friends list...all the relatives had some suspicion as to what was going on......
Everybody thought it takes time to settle and  understand each other..but case was different she had a boyfriend before and had some arguments with him ,jus for the heck of showing him his place,how she settles with a rich guy...and make him jealous she did it!!....and now few months after marriage she is still keeping contacts with him...then one day she told her husband the "boyfriend story" and she wants to go back....(its weird)...without anybody's knowledge she hired a lawyer and went inn for divorce sending it to the parents(in-laws)..we tried talking to her mom and bro(dad is no more)...but this girl abused her mom like anything for ruining her life...
now the worst part... demanding lot of money for out of the court settlement with all the jewelery which was given to her...which is in hundred thousand dollars...and then she plans to get back to the original boyfriend.....
 They are heading for divorce...
.....a perfect example of greediness and third grade upbringing....(SAD!!)
now getting back to social networking sites...
“Positive and negative things can spread through these networks", but on balance if there’s too much negative stuff flowing through a network....these sites might dissolve in coming years...

I have seen...fifteen years of marriage going into shambles as the guy was dating someone on FB....now I see the wife ...with kids alone....
Are these networking sites have so much influence on our personal lives? are we showing our desperation in this way? many of the IDS are  fake...

I usually see during parties or get-together ..Mom s of teenage girls going berserk...as the study(room)has all facebook time goin on...
 I see so much personal information and pictures updated everyday ..every kinda weird party or weekend celebration pictures are posted...some ladies and men without fail on FB ...some updates regularly....even if there is a tussle at home it will be on face book too....everybody knows whats going on at others place....

Everything has its pros and cons and every person has its maturity level....of thinking and responding ,talking about the adults...its pathetic to see breaking a relationship or a marriage for somebody on facebook whom you have just met a month ago and not even knowing about the real personality how could somebody without knowing get carried away.....

are these social networking sites meant for these purposes??

Sequel(What do you say?)

..In my previous blog...I had written about one of my close friends ANU..her preferences and expectations for life partner...to which I read many views ...
The reason I am writing a sequel on this..is I would like to clear some misconceptions on the views I read .

I think everyone looks for a better companion in life...I have never heard any girl saying she wants to get married to a poor guy..or get a ride on bicycle ..or looking for an illiterate person...I mean when we were in University most of my friends had similar kind of views except few things ..and had set their standards high..Girls from big towns or livin in US always have a class difference with those of villages or people from small towns...Most of us in my friends circle got married as per our choices...and luckily we found one!

Another thing which I would like to discuss here is ....having a mind-set on something and striving for that is nothing wrong..its always the society you move inn raise your standards of living and expectations... most of the Indians we know here in Michigan are Engineers as it has an Auto industry here..The Big three(GM,Ford,Chrysler)and they all have "DECENT"Cars...Indian community here ,the educated people ..professionals.. I am talking about ..the people I know ,have expensive houses and luxury cars...so its no big deal to find a person having all these ...and may be moving in that crowd as we have a common friend circle ...Anu has some expectations from life and partner!!!

Joint family was another factor ...Its good as long as it works in the family and respect each others decisions...but no compulsions...I would not harbor that thought since parents are precious for everyone and laying conditions before getting married not to live in joint family is considered not so good....things workout once we get into that situation ...and we know many Educated families here where parents live separately as they need their own space from their kids and keeping cordial relation with them....but on any Social gathering we see them together..
Lemme tell you I live in a joint family..so to me living close to my family is very important I get a feeling of security!
Anu had jus given her preferences ,but if it was a guy instead of her ,,,,he would look for some Queen in India ..expecting lot of things in dowry since he is US returned and even after that he would lay some conditions on her before bringing her to US.
And guys ...wait for few years we are not far from that age n era when girls gonna keep conditions too like boys before marriage ..see the rate of female infanticides..where the population of females is declining  ..there will be a bride hunting at every nook and corner..

Marriage to me is love and respect ..with adjustments ...and keeping the temperament in control...the real story of life begins
AFTER**
:)

Marriage???

.. Marriage makes an incomplete human being a complete one..but it goes with age and responsibility..to nurture the relationship...I Believe only in marriage! no live-in relationships or any other kind of involvement ..to me its a blessing given to us with the permission of almighty and parents ..its our responsibility and efforts to make it into a beautiful relationship and proudly be a part of the society..I may sound old in my thoughts but ..I always believe in norms made for the "best of society".

A marriage is based on trust and love and the promise to be the best partner possible.People take it lightly and say "ITS A TAG"..Nope its not..Why?I think marriage is a great bond and tie between two people who truly love each other and they don't need to keep their relationship at test or give it a try before a wedlock..

Those who are sure about themselves and their love go for marriage ..otherwise its like keep trying and looking throughout life for an appropriate individual ..

..N remember..Life is Short...

for all those who r getting married on 11 April..

Congrats!

God Bless!!!