..Mayhem!!!

..yet another ..true incident where I am surprised how parents play their role when their kids make mistakes ...

..We had a guest from Australia..my hubby's good friend an engineer by profession ..son of retd.. Maj General from Indian Army..he was very eager to meet us,he came all the way to Canada and then called my hubby to pick him up from the border ..so that they could spend some time together..

I met him for the first time.. nice humble person,but when I heard his personal life in shambles coz of his parents ..I was surprised?

I don't want to reveal his real name so would call him X,he is doin very well in business and owns two restaurants in Australia ,money is not a problem for him now ,he has his own house and people working for him..all luxuries of life after lot of struggle and hard work in Australia ..

X parents lived in India..he was in Australia and got involved with an Australian gurl ..they were in live in relationship...and one day his dad without informing him came to Australia and when the gurl opened the door his dad thought he came to a wrong house..but when he saw his son later ..he was furious..yelled at his son..called the gurl and insulted her with all sorts of names and being abusive , kicked her out literally ...this gurl was pregnant then.. X was thinking of telling his parents about their relationship ..but it all happened in a moment..

X dad then found a gurl in India and told him to get married.. after lot of arguments he was forced to get married ...

This gurl from India was nice to X mom n dad initially..they all lived in Australia..together..but seems like the gurl had told a lie about her education and qualifications to X and his parents ..which they found later..X dad was furious again and yelled at their daughter -in -law..told her to go back to India, termed as a liar and abused her parents..and then she was not required in her in-laws anymore...

The gurl left for India and later filed divorce ..and papers were sent by courier to Australia..

It was a shock to X family as they never thought of divorce ,and X dad ,to him it was a big insult...(seems like dad had an Army rule at home)

now this gurl here in Australia had a baby boy and lived with her mom..who still meets X and he too likes her.. but the gurl cannot forget her insult as she doesn't want to come back and live with X coz of his father..though X parents are ready to accept her now..

On the other hand the gurl in India is ready to patch up with X but ..Dad is not ready to bring her home for the insult she did by filing divorce and spreading rumors in the family...

..So X is with nothing jus stress and tensions even after earning and struggling ,making money but no peace in life..

We asked what the parents do in Australia? he said ..Dad enjoys playing golf or they are on vacation with their friends..they are happy!!he said

he stayed at our place for weekend and was happy to see us and kids with our parents..

..which he missed..in his life..I guess!!

now here I would say rather then rectifying the mistakes ,Parents added problems to their sons life.. and how can one be happy..??if your own child is suffering!
my solution to him was that,parents should go back to India thou it will be impolite and rude to them as X agreed to that and they should enjoy their life in India and this guy should settle with the gurl and his son ..and the gurl in India should be divorced..
Sometimes its surprising how parents Dad or Moms break their own kids martial bliss and enjoy their life... sometimes we get lot of attention at work being at the highest position and forget the real Civil life which is the ultimate truth in X's (father) case as his Dad is so use to giving orders now ..forgetting his present life .. where his own son is suffering...somebody needs to wake them up and show the reality...and their identity..

what do u say?? is solution to this problem..(plz lemme know ur views)